I recently saw a tweet that said "If women were told that having four fingers was the beauty standard, some would cut one off and still insist they did it for themselves." (paraphrased). Obviously that's hyperbole, but why do so many of our "personal preferences"
it is an unwritten rule of life that after every prolonged period of hardship and uncertainty, there is going to be a period when you are going to achieve quantum leaps across multiple areas of your life. the only requirement is that you do not give up on yourself.