my childhood trauma didn't make me stronger it made me a people pleaser, it made it impossible for me to give up on people, it made me exhaustingly empathetic, and it made me constantly have the urge to take responsibility for everybody's problems even if I didn't cause them.
The relationship your siblings have with your parents isn't the same relationship you have with them. Two people can live in the same household and each experience a totally different house dynamic.
The healer also needs healing. The planner also needs surprises. The giver also needs to receive. The thoughtful also needs to be thought of. The considerate also needs to be considered.
if they wanna talk to you, they will. if they wanna be with you, they will. if they wanna make things work, they will. don’t let things be one sided. it’s not healthy, and it’s not fair to you.