It’s not even a shade but Men are really submissive to each other. A lot of male behavior is shaped by “what other men will think” and often enforcing what’s manly or not on each other.
It’s also why a man will defend a random stranger that’s also a man they do not know.
My girl best friend told her boyfriend something that lowkey changed how I see relationships.
She said, “I don’t want obedience. I want consideration. I shouldn’t have to beg you to think about how your actions affect me.”
She told him, “You’re allowed to have friends. You’re allowed to go out. You’re allowed to live your life. But if you constantly put yourself in situations that you know would hurt me, that’s not freedom. That’s you choosing yourself over us.”
Then she said something that hit:
“If I have to keep explaining why something disrespects me, it’s not confusion. It’s comfort. You’re comfortable knowing I’ll stay.”
And whew.
She wasn’t yelling. She wasn’t threatening to leave. She was calm. Grounded. Clear.
She told him, “I won’t control you. But I will control what I tolerate. And if I start feeling small in a relationship that’s supposed to feel safe, I’ll remove myself. Not to punish you. To protect me.”
That’s what emotional maturity sounds like.
Not “do what I say.”
But “I see the red flag. I told you it’s red. If you keep walking past it, I’m not dragging you back.”
How can you ask for a traditional marriage and expect the women to pay bills AND do all household chores.
Where is the tradition in that?
Traditional marriage with progressive benefits?? God forbid.
A safe man comes into your life and loves you correctly. No secrets. No sneaky stuff. No half love. No other women. No inconsistency. Just you and only you.
Some people don't really love you, they barely even like you. They just maintain a connection with you so that they have access to you when it's beneficial to them. Once you realize that, you will begin to live life for yourself instead of pleasing others.
Please respect yourself enough to not date married people / people who are in relationships. Sure, the other person might not respect their relationship but at least respect yourself.
this is super-false, lol. Men will waste your time for eternity while not being happy, ESPECIALLY if you are useful.
Men leave WHEN THEY HAVE SOMEWHERE TO GO. Whether it be a real woman, the hint of a woman, a job or the urging of friends.
Just find you somewhere better to be.
Men want babies that cost women their bodies, peace, careers, and stability. but still shame women for wanting financial security. Make it make sense. SMH.