Sunfelix

fashion designer,
News analyst and
Media personnel

[Kachi @Xo_nado1]

Whatever you allow, continues.

Disrespect should never be tolerated, not from anybody.

The first time a woman disrespects you, caution her immediately, let it be the first and last time.

I'm also a woman so I know how we test boundaries.

If you are weak, she will ride on it, knowingly or unknowingly.

This disrespect is common between two people who started as boyfriend and girlfriend, during those relationships days, you swallow a lot disrespect because you want to maintain the relationships...he talks to you anyhow, you make excuse for him, she does anyhow, you ignore because she is a woman.

Now how do you correct something you've allowed for a long time in marriage?

Marriage is not a ticket to good behaviour.

Whatever bad attitude you saw in relationships gets worse in marriage.

So if you're girlfriend is already disrespectful, you better show her your boundaries or have a rethink.

[Basic Street Matters @basic_matters]

Abeg, how do you people do it?

Is it that the love is blind, or the juju is actively working on him?

A woman who can effortlessly liquidate your pride in public has zero respect for you in private.
Stop acting like an unpaid emotional punching bag just because you signed or you want to sign a wedding certificate.

Wake up men and reclaim your remaining sense.

The street is brutal.

[mmixorma @mmixorma]

@instablog9ja People often label you as strict or principled when your opinions about things they consider normal are abnormal to you. The truth is, everyone can’t be flexible. You either do what works best for you or do what benefits others and displeases yourself.

[folowosele adeboye @boye4christ2006]

If you’re hoping to become a father soon:

1) Don’t borrow to do wedding ceremonies, also ensure you buy all the clothes your wife would wear , don’t allow your wife to be to buy it.

2) The best legacy you can give your children is to train and teach them in the way of the Lord. Most people that have become bad children usually stem from a bad home.

3) Ensure you give your children education. Good Education is the best inheritance you can give them.

4) Be emotionally there for your children. Some kids don’t have good access to their dads. Ensure your kids are accessible to you and vice versa.

5) Be a good example to your children. Don’t beat or correct your wife in front of your children. You can correct your wife later but you shouldn’t even beat your wife at all. Children that grow up to beat their wives usually learn it from their dads.

6) Correct your children when they are wrong and also apologise when you are wrong , I know it’s hard but you’re teaching them how to be humble.

[Sunfelix @Sunfelix4]

@celebritybox9ja Too much of it can also bring Emotional neglect and absence from the man to the wife, we just need to strike a balance , marriage is partnership being a woman doesn't guarantee you should be financially useless at home.

[Sunfelix @Sunfelix4]

@Chi_lady_89 @magical_cole You look like the lady in the second frame @ clarity

[XandyOby🌹 @OgodoSandra]

I linked a guy and a lady together some time ago....

The lady lives in the UK while the guy is in Nigeria processing his relocation as well. A few months later, he told me she booked a flight to Nigeria to come see him and refused to let him contribute to the cost.

After she returned to the UK, we talked some more. She mentioned how they were planning their future together and her active contribution!!!

What stood out to me wasn't the money. It was the mindset!!!

Your man doesn't have to be broke before you contribute meaningfully. If you have resources, what are you doing with them if not using them to improve the well-being of your family and future together?

You should have a mindset that says, "If it needs to be done and I can do it, I will."

Relationships work best when both people are prepared to show up fully, not when one person has already decided their support must always remain "little."

One even said supporting a man is spoiling him!!!
Imagine!!!

Some of you won't even pay transport fare to see your man in the same city with you....

[🦋Her Majesty💃💕 @juliet_ifechi]

@OgodoSandra You are very correct.
You don't have to wait until your man becomes totally financially strained before you offer to help if you have the means.

[.tosha @theo_tosha]

The strange thing is that many people claim they want a partnership, yet still think contribution should flow in only one direction.

If you're building a future with someone and you have the ability to help, help. Not because you're a woman. Not because you're a man. Because you're a team.

[Sunfelix @Sunfelix4]

@OgodoSandra More reasons I keep rooting for western ladies, they understand what partnership means in marriage,not Nigerian ladies that perceive marriage as a means to and end.

[Mark 15:35 @TinaZinhle]

It's crazy how most men think they don't deserve love just because they aren’t financially stable

[Sunfelix @Sunfelix4]

@kenkenlewu The test of loyalty is staying through storm and having someone who ensures I am not fighting alone.True love is tested through pains and not convenience.

[Sunfelix @Sunfelix4]

@Chi_lady_89 @Prince_dc21_ Sex and pregnancy is unrelated, Pregnancy is a sign of procreation, it's just the aftermath, I believe forming a new generation in your name is a thing of joy.

[Sunfelix @Sunfelix4]

@TgCafe Choose who chooses you, communication is always a problem if he/ she doesn't prioritize you.

[Headking's Mindset 🧠 @MindOfHeadking]

When you’re interacting with a woman, stop asking her “what’s your favorite color” “what have you been up to?” “What’s your favorite food?” Like what most men do.

Ask these 17 opened ended questions instead to spark a conversation;

Save for your next date.

[PeePee🎀 @peegzy1]

I think we underestimate how difficult it is to find genuine partners.

[Sunfelix @Sunfelix4]

@Chi_lady_89 @Prince_dc21_ Pregnancy is a good thing, the idea of hiding it makes no brain at all, we Nigerians are too sinister about it.

[Sunfelix @Sunfelix4]

@horrmmotola So Alex had a family, he was so intentional about hiding it away from the public.

[Nancy_Priceless @NancyAigbebhalu]

@OgodoSandra @daymawla Gratitude is quiet, complaints have a microphone. That’s why church only hears one side.

[Otunba Bini @Otunba_Bini]

I thjnk marriage is easy to celebrate in seasons of abundance; its true strength is revealed in seasons of struggle.

If a person stood by you when things were comfortable, leaving the moment hardship arrives raises difficult questions about commitment and partnership.

Financial setbacks can happen to anyone. What many people need during those moments is support, encouragement, and teamwork.

A family that faces storms together often emerges stronger than one that abandons the ship at the first sign of rough waters.

What do you think, Sandra