Perosnally, I use it, 'cause I have autism and ADHD (professionally diagnosed)
I see it the same way as the N word. Black people can say it.
If a slur is geared towards people like you, you can say it. Y'know?
// Okay so I Redrew the roleswap references because I felt like I could do Better and I also threw in a Shapesmith+Powerplex swap.. it was gonna be Two more but Consider the following ; I Don't Wanna