According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partner’s or friend’s distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
Everyone talks about the male loneliness epidemic but no one talks about the hot, successful and smart girls who can’t find suitable partners cus dating in this day and age is equivalent to an involuntary check in at the mental hospital.
If I feel like a nigga lying about a bitch ima text her and tbh we should normalize that without making it weird cause these niggas b playing both sides you can’t blame nobody for wanting shit to get cleared up
I love boujee black girls that aren’t elitist. Like the ones that don’t talk down on nobody but they don’t play small for anyone’s insecurities either. Yall one of my favorite genres to hype up! I be so proud of yall
@spicebae_@JaidahB He lacks emotional intellegence and depth, which is why it felt like they were having two very different conversations. He simply did not have the range or intentionality unfortunately, to meet her emotional needs, as a child or as an adult, and it’s so sad.