There’s a certain type of privacy & alone time I require in order for me to feel like I’m still functioning and operating as an individual. I cannot do the codependency or enmeshment.
“If women were taught about submission, we wouldn’t need to shout, ‘Husbands, love your wives,’ at men everyday.”
You see how illogical and biased that sounds?
Having taught at Bible college for 7 years after graduating, I’ve always carried the weight of trying to balance biblical teaching.
For example:
1. Don’t teach children to obey their parents and respect their elders without also teaching parents not to provoke their children.
2. Don’t preach about hell with such intensity that people only leave terrified, without proclaiming with even more conviction the hope of heaven; the city whose streets are of gold, where there is no night, no need for the sun, because the Lamb Himself is its light.
3. Don’t magnify the devil in such a way that people fear him more than they trust God; for the love and power of God will always be greater than any fear of the enemy.
The same principle applies to marriage.
A preacher should not repeatedly teach women about submission without giving equal emphasis to the command that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves His Church.
A woman should not marry a man she knows she cannot submit to.
A man should not marry a woman he knows he cannot love as Christ loves His church.
It is unfair to always blame a husband every time a wife chooses to act contrary to Scripture.
Consider the first marriage in Scripture:
Adam received God’s command concerning the tree before Eve was created. Yet by Genesis 3, Eve already knew God’s instruction, meaning Adam had faithfully communicated it to her. Yet, she was deceived and ate of the fruit. Adam, however, sinned knowingly.
Both were held accountable by God. Deception did not remove Eve’s responsibility, and Adam’s leadership did not excuse his disobedience. Each answered for their own actions.
The same remains true today.
If a virtuous woman refuses to submit to her own husband, Scripture places responsibility on her for that choice. Likewise, if a faithful husband refuses to love his wife sacrificially, he is accountable before God.
We cannot continually excuse one person’s disobedience by placing all the blame on the other.
So, Deborah, if a woman truly desires to obey the Lord, she will submit to her husband as unto Christ. If a man truly desires to obey the Lord, he will love his wife as Christ loves His Church: and both will continually submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
As believers, we cannot keep weaponizing Scripture against one another. The Word of God is likened to a mirror; before it confronts someone else, it confronts us.
James 1:22-25
“Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like… But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it… will be blessed in what they do.”
Scripture cannot be broken.
Ycee might actually never know the sort of cultural reset and paradigm shift that his comment about "Olodo uprising" has caused on conscious minds here.
Anybody fighting what he said is truly among the group of Olodo Uprising he rightly talked about.
"Olodo uprising" is a great terminology, tbh. It succinctly captures the stupidity epidemic and the ongoing, yet immense, negative impact it is having on Nigeria's young people.
The olodos are fighting back.
We are already suffering from an entire batch of uprisen olodos.
If you care enough for the next generation, to prevent geometric explosion of baby olodos - please stop procreating with women like this.
Seen that video and tbh I don't think there's any shade to Peller because Peller is just doing what works. He found an audience, he's feeding it, he's winning by the metrics available to him. That doesn't make him stupid in any way...it's not an insult to him.
The core argument is that we Nigerians have normalized and keep rewarding low-effort, low-intelligence public figures to the point where it's reshaping cultural values, especially for young people. Peller isn't doing anything harmful per se, but the engagement he gets in relation to people doing more important things says so much about the audience. Now, so many people believe you don't need to build anything or know anything to become influential on social media.
When intelligent students in schools sees an olodo with nothing to offer having millions of followers online, getting brand deals, buying cars and houses while their very intelligent seniors have nothing to show for finishing school with good grades, they begin to see school as not so important after all.
He didn't criticise Peller, he is criticising everyone that made Peller and people like Peller, the influential figure that they are today; a kind of dominant template. Peller is only a symptom of the sickness we are suffering from as a society.
you’ll never see me flaunting material things on the internet. it’s not because i’m humble, i no just get am.
when i finally get am, problem go seriously de.