We were still getting to know each other when he said he wanted me to meet his mum. I agreed, and that Saturday he took me to her house.
After we talked for a while, she mentioned that his younger brother’s child dedication was coming up the next day. Before I left, she looked at me and said:
“My daughter, come by 5 a.m. tomorrow so you can help us cook.”
I smiled and replied, “No problem, ma.”
Then I stood up, said my goodbyes, and left.
Things I wish somebody had told me before I got married:
My wife and I have been married for 15 years.
If I could sit down with my younger self before the wedding, these are the six lessons I’d make sure he understood:
1. Love is not enough.
This always dusts me because are you tweeting live from your parents' side? How many grown children spend over a week with their parents and if so, how many times in a calendar year? If people are realistic, they wouldn't go with this one
It's quite interesting how people automatically expect the wife to be the bigger person. It's also interesting how people want her to understand something that would be having the insubmissive wife brigade assembling and ready for battle if roles were reversed...
"It's my money. I earned it. I don't need permission to buy a car."
I said we're married and major purchases should be discussed.
He said discussing it would've turned into an argument because I would've wanted him to buy me a car instead.
I told him that's not the point.
He said:
"Then why are you mad? The bills are paid. The kids are taken care of. Nothing is missing."
So I stopped cooking for him.
Not the kids but just him.
If I'm not entitled to an opinion on his money, then he's not entitled to my labor.
Now his family says I'm petty and punishing him for being successful.
My friends say he acted single and got treated single.
So was I wrong?
I am inclined to believe that MaCele enjoys it when the other wives are not ok with ubabake... I actually think she finds victory in it... #UthandoNesthembu
@joy_zelda No, objectively speaking, she does to them what she herself does not want done to her. She is responsible for them treating her at arms length
I have learnt something this season. MaCele is the only one Mseleku treats like a wife. It is also why they have less issues between the two of them. Yes he has misses there but gor the most part he treats her like a wife. #UthandoNesthembu
@luxemiaa I am with you FULLY! I hope he soaked in embarrassment. If your kids are young, as the father put something together with your kids and celebrate their mother! You can't act like the day is a non-event. As they grow older, help them own the planning and finance it, till they save
@mellemtshali@joy_zelda Tell us how Makhwela ensured she could make babies since it's something one controls.. Step by step wethu so the ones who can't can learn from your knowledge bank
Half of the time, the “peace” a lot of men ask for when they talk about wanting a partner that brings peace is silence and acceptance when they misbehave or act disrespectfully.
Yazi indaba ka MaNgwabe ibhlungu kabi ngoba she was ready to leave Musa and file for a divorce since Season 4 to 5.
To see her in Season 6 saying she’s staying because the elders intervened , socials are mocking her marriage futhi umfazi onjani who leaves their husband in a dying state, it’s like she was manipulated to prove a point which is unfair💔💔.
I was hoping ukuthi she will leave Musa, find another husband ngapha eKuruman okanye iLimpopo and settle down without worrying about “another Isthembu”
#UthandoNesthembu