@RamzZy_ Kanyari wants to thrive on this drama. Otherwise as the biological he can take his kids. He also said his environment isn't good for children they'd rather stay with the step.
You have to be extremely self aware for this as a man. You have to have the ability to sit with very uncomfortable truths about your parents, esp your father as a man, a husband & a parent. This is a very uncomfortable & disturbing process, given most men are avoidants!
@njeriwanjeri Unrelated but the notion "I came to finally understand my father" is just men repeating same old patterns that destroyed their family.
You'd rarely hear someone raised by an upright respectful father say this. Because when something is normal there's nothing to understand.