So my friend called me this morning to talk about something that happened to her last night. She’s been trying to find someone to date…extremely casually. She doesn’t have time for a full blown relationship and basically all she wants is a nice man to have sex with.
Polyamory Tip: Consider your close friends when determining whether or not you're polysaturated. Even if you don't consider friends "relationships", deep emotional connection of any sort will take up some of your limited time and emotional energy, romantic or not.
The process of learning to expect better in relationships takes many of us a very long time, especially because it can feel like a process of loss as we release people and connections that don't meet our new standards.
Trauma makes you think your self-worth depends on how others treat you. Healing makes you realize you are not how they treat you, they are how they treat you, and you didn't lose them because of your boundaries, they lost you because of their repeated disrespect.