Self-control is a freedom, not bondage. You're free to use wisdom, free to obey God, and free to follow the leading of the Spirit. You're free not to be pushed around by your feelings. You don't have to do what you feel like doing. You're free to do what you know is wise!
•Being kind to others.
•Seeking to meet the needs of others.
•Loving your neighbor.
•Being merciful to the least among us.
•Speaking up on behalf of others...
NONE OF THESE THINGS CONTRADICT THE GOSPEL. They are the fruit of a life that's being sanctified.