To have the life you want, you need to start the practice of disappointing people. Teach yourself that adults are capable of being upset, and that your role isnโt to fix everyone elseโs issues. Anxiety and depression are signals that youโre neglecting, you.
You donโt need to react to everything around you. You donโt need to immediately respond to text message and phone calls. You can (and should) spend time doing nothing at all. Your health will improve when you reject urgency culture.