Kristeva on the truth of unconscious desire that within a patriarchal culture can only be figured as the “woman” who violently emerges (as the repressed which always returns and as the abject which is sublimely horrifying) to challenge and unsettle the paternal Law.
This generation is obsessed with labeling. Are you whimsical? Bubbly? Are you clean? Are you soft life? Hmm you can be all of these things at once but I think it’s so pedantic to need to label everything and let it determine how you like do your nails and hair lmfao
College is extraordinarily expensive and becoming less useful, and those who insist otherwise are working from a model of the labor market that stopped describing reality sometime in the 1990s. Four-year courses at private institutions often cost more than $70,000 a year, and it should come as no surprise that student debt has tipped over $1 trillion .
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there's no moral imperative to not waste your life. there's no divine punishment for not living up to your potential. there's no need to shame & guilt yourself for not being everything you could be
and that can be way scarier, because if there's no existential stakes, if the shame/guilt isn't there to motivate you... all you have is your preferences. "I prefer not to waste my life". that's your only truth
it's hard to see that as motivating, as worth honouring. so many of us are taught from an early age to discard our own preferences. our desires become a threat to our access to love & belonging, so we reject them
honouring your preferences thus becomes a courageous act. to stand before the world with all its pressure and narratives about who you "should" be, and to just say "I like this so I'm going to do it"... that feels crazy. it feels like not enough
in that space of "not enough" we dress up our preferences in justifications and elaborate theories and false superiority ("this is why my path is the right path") but all of that is bullshit that clouds our vision. "I like it, so I'm going to do it." that's all it ever is
it requires courage & self-trust. you need to trust that you are a benevolent, loving person whose preferences are aligned with the betterment of the world. you need the courage to endure rejection, criticism, and misunderstandings
but on the other side, you get the most honest version of yourself, the version of you who really knows what they want and goes after it without justification or apology. that's a cool version of you. they're going to do great work. there is no way that version of you will ever waste their life; not a chance
Do the humanities only exist in universities?
Or do they exist anywhere people create and interpret meaning - concert halls, libraries, museums, religious institutions, and other spaces?
And if it does, why aren't these groups talking to and coordinating with each other more?
@erridoyeah I really should have said "most of my neuroticism" lol. But apart from that love of the game, amusement, enrichment. I try to block ragebait now instead of allowing myself to be provoked & mostly follow ppl that put me onto Interesting Things Happening In The Culture
I had to let go of my lifelong neuroticism to regain my mental and physical health and one thing I've noticed is that people get very offended when you refuse to stress yourself out in the same manner as them
@__vronsky@QurLir U have to dismantle the structures in ur life that rely upon neuroticism. Which will be deeply uncomfortable at first for u and yours.. Most paths u can take thru modern life require a degree of neuroticism. U need to take great pains to find something different for yourself
@__vronsky@QurLir Yes and no. U have to work to create room to stop choosing neuroticism--in this day and age, neuroticism is commonly thought 2 correspond to discipline, and it's a load bearing mechanism for a lot of people...
iv lived thru many a trial and tribulation but in the grand scheme of things i really am so lucky . ive fallen over and over again and somehow everything and everyone conspires 2 help me get back up ... feeling xtra grateful 4 my angels 2day
Really interesting seeing a ton of self-proclaimed sex positive leftists discount her advice on the basis of her promiscuity presumably just bc she's associated with tpot .... Maybe it's time 2 re-examine our commitment to our beliefs x
im ngl even if orgies arent for u i think romy holland was dispensing pretty decent advice. getting precious about how other people perceive you and how you engage with your interests is how you keep yourself lonely
@hesseyaoi ill probably be working on it forever to some extent but slowly, gradually, u need to restructure ur life around ur sanity. i was forced to do so all at once but tbf i had a LOT of help in that. praying that you're able to find the resources + support u need🫶🫶
Anxiety is a heavy, sticky energy that demands company to validate itself. When you refuse to catch their "emotional flu," they feel rejected because their coping mechanism relies on shared misery. Stay centered. Let their storm pass without becoming part of it.