One issue I had with my man before was his obsessive need to be everyone's hero.
One time he drove to take a "female friend" to the hospital because she had period cramps.
We argued about it.
So I went out and told him I had gone to help my male friend with how blue balls.
No one tells you how hard it is to rewire your brain to allow amazing things to happen after experiencing so much trauma or pain. Blessings exist, good people exist, and a softer life exists. Let it happen.
Women will sacrifice themselves and maintain relationships with their literal abusers so they kids can have relationships with their fathers but men be like “me and my bm ain’t get along so I just neglected my kid”
this is something abusers use to excuse their abuse btw. mental verbal and emotional abuse is still abuse. im sorry but the man who broke up with her the day before she had to move back to take care of her father who had cancer gets zero sympathy from me.