Temitope 🤎

[trex @_trexszn]

Having no one to lean on while you’re struggling mentally is so hard.

[سيدة @Ajoke__xx]

When I feel neglected so then I just become avoidant.

[feyisayo 💸 @feyiszn]

One thing I’ve realized is that when you're a lil too understanding, people become a lil too inconsiderate of you.

[Nicky💕 @jas_d_barbie]

oversleeping is one of my biggest coping mechanisms & the easiest way to tell when I’m going through something.

[Temitope 🤎 @Tadera_]

Women need to put love aside and start using their heads abeg

[Ona 𐙚 @ona_nky]

The amount of beauty I will unleash is insane. Let me finish suffering first 😭

[Boluwatife @TEEPHTREND]

1. Lying to someone and doing things behind their back
2. Telling someone they deserve better and giving up on them is NOT love. .
3. Not checking up on someone the entire day because you're too busy is NOT love.
4. Controlling someone's life is NOT love.
5. Love is not using abusive language during an argument.
6. "You are only mine" is not love.
7. Asking for your Instagram password is not love.
8. Ignoring and late replies are not love.
9. Always being busy is not love.
10. Love is not staying up until 2 or 3 at night talking to you.

[Solyricon @Solyricon]

letting go is hard , but staying with a man who makes u explain every day how u want to be loved . is draining .

[Temitope 🤎 @Tadera_]

Ile aye, ile asan…

[Temitope 🤎 @Tadera_]

Life is a fickle…

[Temitope 🤎 @Tadera_]

Just dey playyyy

[Rhoda @Symply_rhoda1]

Your in-laws don’t have to like you for your marriage to work. You’re not exchanging vows with them; you’re exchanging vows with your partner. The Bible says a man should leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. If the relationship is healthy and built on love, don’t let anyone else’s opinion stop you from marrying the person you love.

[Ghost Writer ✍️ @Prezain_LJ]

The worst thing you can do to a child is raise them in survival mode. When they grow up, everything becomes about survival for them, including relationships and friendships. Every interaction is about what they can get and how they can survive.

It's a very sad situation.

[Just Nneka @IamJustNneka]

@MaryRoseMalomo @MaziYomi No one should respect authority so much that it will cost them their lives. We need Nigerians to be more rebellious.

He should have left whether they approve or not, this is just unfortunate.

[Ibironke Khadeejah Quadri @ronkecarew]

Not even sure to begin. I just want to use it today to encourage every Single mothers here tonight.

This girl was a year old when we left , Brother was a month old. All I could see was darkness, I was totally Depressed, Frustrated and Helpless..
But God said No. My parents stepped up and took us back, I left Single but returned with 3 children under 5 years of age a sick woman ..

Today it's all History, I wish I could share the details of what this girl represents not just as a daughter but a youth worker , Hopefully one Day .

15 plus years later, And it's all praise and gratitude. It wasn't easy, far from it, the career paid a price but Hard work took over and we focused on Healing and making money enough to ensure we can at least live well.

To the Glory of God we made it .

Over £700 later on budget we got this look as She wanted and She absolutely loved it. As a Mum I feel so proud. She got Prom ticket free, Saved me £150 because of Her efforts with School work

Again not a Single Contribution from the Father, I say this So you Know that With God,Hardwork, Focus work, Smart work , Resilience and refusing to take No for an Answer, You will eventually pull through.

I may not be money rich yet but my life is very full and absolutely beautiful with amazing people in it and we are building our success one day at a time Man or No Man.

Yes I remarried but I am absolutely clear that my Children's financial burden is not His to carry and I am very deliberate about it .

I still work very hard but God is merciful , So as a woman, I beg you, No matter where you are today, Never give up on Hope, Keep grinding, Don't give any Man the chance to rubbish you because you are a single mother..

Keep adding Value and believe Me when I say Na dem go dey rush you when they see what you are and represent..

You are not condemned or useless, Don't accept that Tag. You are very Valuable. Go upskill and let you become the best role model to your children. Your Children can and will be successful by God's grace, They will be balanced and i Dear Say even some Married but living single will even become envious of you

Please do not write yourself off when God has not finished with you

Thank you @cruise_vibez
Everything , the outfits, beads, all of it were sorted by Her including the design, Tailoring, all of it. I am so grateful. She was very patient with Mayowa and ensured Her preferences were prioritised and actualised.

It will only get better insha Allah. Keep grinding

[unfiltered thoughts @chimzybaby15]

This is exactly the kind of advice that frustrates me.

Why are women so often expected to manage a man's unhealthy behavior just to keep a marriage together?

If a husband threatens divorce because his wife's business is succeeding while his has failed, why isn't that called what it is? emotional manipulation, insecurity, and entitlement? Why is the burden immediately placed on the woman to protect his ego?

Why must she become "smaller" so he can feel "bigger"?

Imagine if the roles were reversed. If a wife demanded her husband's thriving business because hers had collapsed, would people advise him to hand her a title, pretend to seek her permission on decisions he already made, and stroke her ego until she felt like the leader? Or would they tell her to work on her insecurity?

We need to stop teaching women that peace comes from constantly shrinking themselves.

Marriage should not require one partner to sacrifice their dreams to soothe the other's wounded pride.

And please, let's stop using "our mothers did it" as the standard. Our mothers endured many things because they often had fewer choices. Endurance should not automatically become wisdom, and survival should not become the blueprint for future generations.

Women should marry people who celebrate their growth, not compete with it. A spouse should be a partner, not someone who sees your success as a threat.

If preserving a marriage depends on constantly feeding one person's ego while the other silently carries the emotional burden, then that marriage has a deeper problem that no amount of "invisible leadership" will solve.

[Muna @Munalozy]

I like dates, I like healthy communication. I like room to grow and improve. I like quality time. I like reassurance. I like reciprocated energy.

[Temitope 🤎 @Tadera_]

@aloe_moe @tumtummiee Girllll, emphasis on the screen time.

[Ibironke Khadeejah Quadri @ronkecarew]

My Dear Sisters/Ladies.
I sincerely hope you are wide awake, Are you reading the room?

Have your standards , work on your financial life so deliberately, The balance is skewed against you.

Don't end up in Penury because you are being shamed, either broke , divorce or age shamed. Be clear about who you will settle down with

Go through their social media pages, out of the abundance of the heart do the mouth speaketh.

The pain of regret is worse than anything you are reading currently. Emotional torture of marriage and birthing with an irresponsible Man is worse. At least having your own money will cushion the effects for you.

Please learn , adjust or Perish. Our society especially the current crop of MT Men is brutal , The majority of them have similar ideologies only few exceptions,

May the Lord help you and my daughters all the way. Don't lose guard please.

Stay sane, stay informed, stay guided and be absolutely confident in your ability to ditch and and say No to Nonsense from anyone of them

Learn or Perish

[Temitope 🤎 @Tadera_]

😭😭😭

[Osas 👨🏾‍💻 @UncleOsas_]

2,500 for full chicken?
All I can say is that, remember the city was flooded a few days ago sha 🌚

[BeeKay💙 @_Barokah__]

Bi Idhnillah 🤲💫