TalktoAwele

I talk about the things adults pretend to have figured out
Love • Marriage • Relationships • Money • Life
🎙️ Spaces | 🗣️ Honest conversations | No judgement.

[Awele Davies @AweleDavies]

If you’re free at 8PM today and you have a TikTok account, come around let’s gist a little.

This is the joining link: https://t.co/OjYdh5qKpD

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[Awele Davies @AweleDavies]

My name is Awele Davies, a Human Resources, People and Business Operations leader with 9+ years of experience spanning HR strategy, People Operations, organisational development, talent management and executive leadership.

Over the years, I’ve had the opportunity to:

• Lead HR and Operations functions at senior management level.
• Implement HRIS solutions to strengthen people management and HR processes.
• Develop SOPs and standardise processes across five subsidiaries.
• Build HR structures, policies and organisational processes.
• Support and coordinate distributed teams across Nigeria, Kenya, Canada, the UK and South Africa.
• Partner with executive leadership to align people strategy with business objectives.

I’m now open to exploring new opportunities, particularly:

• Head of Human Resources / Human Capital Management
• Head of People & Culture
• Head of People Operations
• HR Director
• Chief of Staff
• Head of Business Operations
• Chief Operating Officer (COO)
• Director of People & Operations

I’m particularly interested in fully remote international opportunities, including worldwide and EMEA roles open to candidates based in Nigeria.

If you’re a founder, recruiter, hiring manager or know an organisation looking for an experienced people and operations leader, I’d love to connect.

My DMs are open. Referrals and reposts are genuinely appreciated.

Thank you 🙏

#OpenToWork #HRLeadership #PeopleOperations

[TalktoAwele @TalktoAwele1]

Sometimes, you're not fighting for the relationship.

You're fighting to prove that choosing that person wasn't a mistake.

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Watch how someone treats people who cannot do anything for them.

That's often more revealing than how they treat people they want to impress.

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Some people use the phrase "that's just how I am" to avoid doing the work required to become a better person.

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You can be someone's type and still not be someone they're willing to treat properly.
Attraction is easy. Character is the real test.

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Sometimes, the person standing between you and the life you want is you.
Not your ex. Not your parents. Not your enemies.
You.

[TalktoAwele @TalktoAwele1]

The fact that someone is offended by your boundaries doesn't mean your boundaries are wrong.

Sometimes, they were simply enjoying the absence of them.

[TalktoAwele @TalktoAwele1]

Your friend can love you and still be jealous of you.

Human beings can hold contradictory feelings. Stop acting shocked when they do.

[TalktoAwele @TalktoAwele1]

Some people only check on you when they need something.

You've mistaken being useful for being loved.

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Being family doesn't give someone unlimited access to your life.

DNA is not a lifetime membership card to disrespect you.

[TalktoAwele @TalktoAwele1]

Sometimes, the friendship didn't end because you changed.

It ended because the version of you they benefited from no longer exists.

[Awele Davies @AweleDavies]

A demanding workplace is not necessarily a toxic workplace. But some employers have mastered the art of confusing the two.

Let’s talk about it.

A demanding workplace will challenge you. It will set high expectations, hold you accountable, push you to improve, and sometimes require you to go beyond your comfort zone.

A toxic workplace, on the other hand, will make you question your worth, sacrifice your mental well-being, and feel guilty for having boundaries.

Here’s the difference:

A demanding workplace says, “This work needs to be better. Let’s figure out how to improve it.”

A toxic workplace says, “You are incompetent. I don’t know why we hired you.”

A demanding workplace sets clear expectations and holds you accountable.

A toxic workplace keeps changing the goalpost and blames you for not meeting expectations nobody communicated.

A demanding workplace gives constructive feedback.

A toxic workplace humiliates you in the name of correction.

A demanding workplace respects your time but may occasionally require extra effort.

A toxic workplace treats your personal time as company property.

A demanding workplace challenges you to grow.

A toxic workplace drains you and calls it character development.

The truth is, a workplace can be challenging without being abusive. And a workplace can have high standards without destroying the people expected to meet them.

Employees should not use the word toxic to describe every difficult assignment, uncomfortable feedback, or demanding boss.

But employers should also stop using high performance as a cover for poor leadership, unreasonable expectations, disrespect, and burnout.

You can demand excellence without disrespecting people.

You can enforce accountability without intimidation.

And you can build a high-performing team without making everyone miserable.

Over to you: What is one behaviour employers often defend as “being demanding” that you consider a clear sign of a toxic workplace?

Let’s talk about it in the comments. 👇

#WorkplaceCulture #ToxicWorkplace #Leadership #EmployeeExperience #9to5withAwele

[Awele Davies @AweleDavies]

TODAY, WE’RE TALKING ABOUT IT! 🎙️

Your boss says the company has high standards.

Your colleague says the workplace is toxic.

Management says people are no longer willing to work hard.

Employees say they’re exhausted, anxious and tired of being treated like machines.

So, who is telling the truth?

Because let’s be honest: sometimes, employees mistake accountability for toxicity. And sometimes, employers use performance as an excuse for terrible management.

So, WHEN DOES A DEMANDING WORKPLACE BECOME A TOXIC WORKPLACE?

Where do we draw the line?

Can you have a healthy workplace with demanding targets?
Should employees tolerate pressure as part of the job?
And who gets to decide when enough is enough?

We’re bringing these questions to the 9to5withAwele X Space TODAY!

It’s Today
⏰ 8 PM WAT

Come to listen, contribute, disagree respectfully, and share your experiences.

Employees, HR professionals, managers, founders, this conversation is for you.

And please, tag that friend who always has something to say about their workplace. 😂

#9to5withAwele #WorkplaceCulture

[Awele Davies @AweleDavies]

Set a reminder for my upcoming Space! https://t.co/JUOzAiXllc

[TalktoAwele @TalktoAwele1]

Not everyone who laughs with you is rooting for you.

Some people enjoy your company but would prefer that you never outgrow them.

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The person you marry is not a renovation project.

If your entire plan is to change them after the wedding, you're not ready for marriage. You're ready for a construction site.

[TalktoAwele @TalktoAwele1]

Stop confusing suffering with loyalty.
Staying through every form of disrespect doesn't automatically make you a better partner.

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You can love your partner and still be a terrible partner.

Good intentions don't cancel out bad behaviour.

[TalktoAwele @TalktoAwele1]

Some people want a spouse.
They don't want the responsibility, compromise, accountability, or inconvenience that comes with being one.