EMOTIONS YOU MUST NOT SHOW TO A NARCISSIST
- Fear: they feed on it.
- Desperation: it makes you their puppet.
- Hurt: it validates their power.
- Jealousy: it's their favorite game.
- Helplessness: it invites domination.
- Over-Explaining: it signals weakness.
- Rage: they'll flip it and blame you.
- Attachment: they weaponize it.
The safest emotions to show a narcissist?
Calm. Neutrality. Unbothered energy.
Do you think the malignant narcissist forgets that the person they are vilifying,scapegoating and accusing of being abusive is actually a really nice person and is completely innocent?
Narcissistic parents often pit siblings against each other through a tactic called triangulation. Instead of encouraging healthy bonds, they create rivalry by casting one child as the “Golden Child” and another as the “Scapegoat.” The Golden Child is praised and rewarded, while the Scapegoat is blamed and criticized—sometimes even recruited siblings will join in the scapegoating. This “divide and conquer” strategy keeps everyone competing for the parent’s approval instead of seeing the parent as the real source of dysfunction. The result is that siblings who should be allies often become rivals or enemies, leaving the scapegoated child isolated and unsupported. Meanwhile, the parent sits at the center, feeding off the chaos and maintaining control.