We finished Pugs of the Frozen North today. The children have adored it. As they did last year. My TA said to me, ‘I’ve loved listening to this book.’
Reminded me powerfully that children’s books have the power to entertain and entrance adults as much as kids.
Me: I am refusing to buy anything for my class this year.
***Two weeks in with this cohort I have jumped on Amazon and bought an electric pencil sharpener***
If you are looking for a new show, I’ve just watched the first episode of Harlan corban’s #Shelter & it is amazing. I’m hooked already. It doesn’t have all the episodes yet so you might prefer to wait to binge when it all drops as the tension waiting each week will be hard
What Is A Ruckus?
My secretary called and said there was a ruckus in the front hallway. I was really excited to see what was going on. I wanted to know what a ruckus was. I learned that a ruckus was a small boy I hadn’t net yet. The ruckus was ripping our bulletin board off the wall, knocking over a table and cursing.
He turned around & said, “What the F--- are you looking at?” He continued, “You’re fat, bald, and stupid.” I responded with, “You seem to be upset. What do you need? How can I help?” He moved a step closer to me and said, “Are you deaf, too? I just said you’re fat, bald, and stupid.”
My response was, “I heard you just fine. Now I really can tell you are upset. What do you need? How can I help you?” He started crying while re-stating for the 3rd time (in case I missed the other two times), “You’re fat, bald, and stupid.” He then said, “I hate this stupid school; I don’t know why I’m here. I don’t know where my mom is. I hate my foster family.“
He reached his arms out. I asked if he needed a hug and he nodded. I then asked if he wanted to go to my office. He nodded. I let him know that “Dr. P” is here if he needs anything. He sat at my table and put his head down.
He looked me in the eyes and said, “Dr. P, I’m very sorry for everything that I did. I just miss my mom.” I responded by telling him that I appreciate his apology and that I accept it. He then said, “I am also really sorry for calling you those mean things. I didn’t mean it.”
We brainstormed some ideas of what he could do in the future if he was having a tough day. He suggested that he could ask to get a drink, ask for help, or just put his head down. I let him know that these are great strategies. I added that he could always ask to see the counselor or me.
We then discussed how he could be on the lookout for signs that he was getting upset, frustrated, angry, or agitated. He said that he sometimes started to clinch his fists and his breathing changed. I told him that those were good signs and that the body often gives us signs that we are starting to get upset. We both agreed that it was so important to listen to our bodies.
He asked if he could get his backpack and coat. I thought that was an unusual request for 10 a.m. I asked him why he would need his backpack and coat. He replied, “Because I’m going to get suspended like I did at my last school.” I let him know that there may be another plan. He scrunched his face and looked puzzled.
I asked, “How do you think you could fix what you did this morning?” He thought about it for a minute or so and responded with, “I can pick-up what I threw and fix anything that I broke.” I let him know that this seemed like a good plan. He picked up the items that he threw and helped put the bulletin board back on the wall.
I went over the plan for the next time and we made sure he knew what to do in case he got upset, frustrated, angry or agitated again. I said, “Since we’ve agreed on the plan, let’s shake on it to make it official.” He reached out his hand and shook mine. I let him know that he could go back to class. He picked up his bookbag and his jacket and started off to his class. I called his teacher to let him know that he was on his way. His teacher was so happy to welcome him back to class. I never had another problem with him.
A teacher stopped by later that day. She couldn’t understand why he wasn’t suspended. “He called you fat, bald, and stupid.” My response was that it never was about me. I then asked the teacher if any of the comments were false. She looked at me like I was crazy. I let her know that I am fat and bald. Those were both true statements. I also argued that stupid is a relative term. She didn’t like my answer.
How do you deal with colleagues who are fixed mindset, focused on punitive methods or who believe that alternatives to suspensions equate to being soft on discipline?
From the book “Maslow Before Bloom: Basic Human Needs Before Academics”
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Diagnosed daughter’s transition yesterday, last night the meltdown was the worst we have seen for a long time. Too much change, noisy cafeteria, adults not knowing her, social cues she knows she misunderstood. September is going to be so challenging.
A little post on female masking in primary education.
Primary schools operate on one teacher ALL year. With girls with autism and ADHD they often (not always) can mask and cope. When secondary school hits, can’t. And becomes school refusal.
It isn’t. Is undiagnosed SENd
If every teacher stopped buying things out their own money, things would soon crumble. I’ve tried super hard this year not to but still had to. I am stopping full stop now. I have always done it. After 18 years I should be in a better financial position not worse
#EnoughlsEnough
Do children's books really matter? Well, they're the books that make us readers in the first place. There would be no reading at all without them. So children's literature is the cornerstone of all literature - and children's books are the MOST important books of all!
My daughter is starting secondary school next year, she is ND is successful in primary school but sensory needs generally managed, doesn’t wear a uniform, sensory circuits, same teacher, I worry about secondary…
There is a myth ADHD is boys who present with extreme behaviours. Girls often mask in primary. In secondary is so apparent. They show suddenly through extreme anxiety. Sensory overload. Inability to regulate emotions or navigate them. Check on your female students.
Doing my school holidays thing of offering an entire class set (think 30) of a book to a class/school on here so someone can get their whole lots little eyes on a text at once. Retweet this and let me know what text you’re reading with your class and I’ll pick someone at random.
@Teacherglitter We played Harry Potter cluedo for the first time yesterday with my two, it was great fun, so much better than cluedo junior! This will be my Easter! Have a great break!
@Teacherglitter Used it last year, took a little while for them to respond to it properly. Hid the screen for a bit then they would ask to use it. Have to get settings right and not be sitting near it, the giggles when I set it off were worth it!