"stay with them through ups & downs."
downs are NOT:
-cheating
-disrespect
-abuse: verbal, mental, physical, spiritual
-manipulation
-gaslighting
-control
downs are:
-financial hardships
-health issues
-tragic death/injury
-rough points in a relationship (arguing, lack of
intercourse, losing the "spark")
-trouble keeping/finding individuality in a relationship
stop normalizing putting yourself through trauma trying to prove to somebody that you love them
not being able to give a woman your full undivided attention while she’s literally in labor with your child is a sign that you probably arent actually ready for a kid but thats just my hot take