Asking your woman to not have a "male best friend" is not in secure.
Secure men don't tolerate disrespect, and women keeping a backup beta orbiter on her phone is disrespect.
We are overstimulated and we don't even notice. Netflix while eating. Reels in the bathroom. Music while cooking. Podcasts on walks. We consume by default, not by intention. You keep filling every gap, then wonder why you feel foggy and unmotivated.
Boredom and silence are the real growth drivers. They give you space to think and create. That's when solutions show up for problems that have been stuck for months. Leave some room.
Ngl realizing that you're incompatible with someone (because they don't meet your basic standards of courtesy, respect and reciprocation) and choosing to walk away instead of forcing it/blaming yourself/fantasizing about their potential is a superpower. look how much you've grown
Youโll never obsess over someone who actually wants you. Bc obsession isnโt born from love, itโs from uncertainty. It feeds on mixed signals, unmet needs & the tension between what they sayโฆ & what they do. Itโs the gap.I want you to sit with that for a minute.Let it land.