🚨 BREAKING: Xabi Alonso has accepted to become Chelsea next manager, HERE WE GO! 🔵🔜
The agreement is set to be completed.
#CFC prepare official announcement for the upcoming days, but Xabi said YES. 💣
2023, I missed my convocation. I missed my induction. I don’t have a single group picture with my lecturers or the people I graduated with. I couldn’t go for NYSC I didn't celebrate anything I couldn't afford it.
I’ve never really “done life” the way people assume. I didn’t go on my first date until this year never been to the beach, never been to the cinema, never really had fun. Everyone looks at me when I say these things.
Before that, a lady once offered to take me out because I told her I had never experienced it. She didn’t mind paying I even said I don't have money to come down to the island, she said she will order an uber. I felt uncomfortable, worried, even scared. I chickened out and said no I felt like a useless man, I couldn't afford shit.
Not because I didn’t want to go, but because something about it just reminded me of where I was financially.
Then this February, I finally went on my first date. I paid for everything. Spent money I normally wouldn’t.
So when people say “men should stop faking maturity and celebrate themselves,” it sounds nice, but it’s not the full picture. A lot of guys are not avoiding joy. We just don’t have the leverage for it.
Most men in Nigeria are broke. That’s the reality. Not lazy, not unwilling, just financially constrained. We miss moments, not because we don’t care, but because we can’t afford to show up for them.
This might be the 1st year I’ll actually celebrate my birthday the way I want, and I’m doing it properly. I’ll go out, hit the beach, enjoy myself this time. Not because I suddenly became a different person, but because I finally can. I also celebrated Valentine's Day for the first time. Documenting everything is fun when you have money to pay for it.
A lot of us want to celebrate with friends and family. We want those memories. We want to show up fully. But poverty quietly takes those moments away and replaces them with survival.
That’s why I’ve always tried to position myself to help people break out of it.
Because poverty is deeper than money. It steals experiences, confidence, and even the ability to enjoy life.
God bless the women, that came into my life 😭😭 I can finally say afford to do things.
In 1986, the American Medical Association published an article titled "The Physical Death of Jesus Christ". It details the entire process of Jesus' trial to His death on the cross.
In Luke 22, before Jesus is arrested, it is written that He was in great distress & sweating blood. Although rare, it is recognized as Hematidrosis, a condition caused by high levels of stress.
At the time, the crucifixion was considered the worst death for the worst of criminals. But this is not all Jesus faced. He endured whipping so severe that it tore the flesh from His body. He was beaten so horribly that His face was torn & His beard ripped.
A crown of thorns, 2-3 inches long cut deeply into His scalp. The leather whip used to flog Him had tiny iron balls & sharp bones. The balls caused internal injuries while the sharp bones ripped open His flesh. His skeletal muscles, veins, & bowels are exposed, causing major blood loss. Most men do not survive this kind of torture. After Jesus was severely flogged, He was forced to carry His cross while people mocked & spat on Him.
Crucifixion was a process meant to instill excruciating pain, creating a slow & agonizing death. Nails as long as 8 inches were driven into Jesus' wrists & feet. The Roman soldiers knew the tendons in the wrists would tear & break, forcing Jesus to use His back muscles to support Himself to breathe. Imagine the struggle, the pain, the courage...Jesus endured this reality for 3 hours!
The Gospel of John writes that after Jesus' death, a Roman soldier pierced His side with a spear & blood & water came out. Scientists explain that from hypovolemic shock, the rapid heart rate causes fluid to gather in the sack around the lungs & heart. The accumulation of fluid in the membrane around the heart is called a Pericardial effusion & the lungs is called a pleural effusion.
To the world, Christianity is as foolish as it can get. They believe it's for the weak. But when you are confronted by the reality of the cross, it's clearly not a pretty sight. It is brutal & horrific.
This is the weight Jesus carried. The weight of the sins of the world, all so that we can live. God's wrath is fully satisfied in Jesus. This is what it took. Repent & believe! Jesus is “God among us” in the flesh. Jesus is our Savior. Jesus loves you so much that He went through this spiritual and physical punishment for your sins and mine.
Jesus is the LORD, Almighty God, Everlasting Father.
Thank You, Jesus.
As someone who’s been in UK for about 3yrs, these are my reality check (most base on personal experience).
My top 15.
1. You cannot survive abroad if you’re lazy, especially if you’re alone.
2. If you don’t keep to time, you’re going to have problems, 1min late can cost you a lot.
3. You might actually stop praying for some worldly luxury if you live abroad, because they’re not so hard to get. I’m talking about owing cars and the likes.
4. Every successful people I’ve seen in UK (men and women) are people in happy marriage.
5. If you cannot ask for help, you’re likely going to suffer.
6. It’s easier to secure work that doesn’t care about academic certificates than the ones that cares about academic certificates.
7. You are better abroad as a married person than being single.
8. You will meet celebrities in random places and no one really cares about them. I think the only celebrities people really give so much relevance to in the UK are active footballers.
9. Your colleague at work are not your friends.
10. Oyinbo laughing at you is not genuine, do not mistake their shining of teeth for likeness.
11. If you meet Oyinbo girl that you desire sexual or romantic relationship with, ask for their ID, everyone in UK have at least one ID that shows their age, do not believe whatever she calls her age for you (especially if you meet them in night club or any social gathering that is open to everyone).
12. Nobody is too busy abroad not to talk to people back in home country, except they’re in prison.
13. If your naija girlfriend japa before you and there is no plan for you to go and join her soon, she’s likely going to break up with you sooner.
14. There is a community in London, that is you take pictures there and post, you can tell anyone who doesn’t know you personally that you’re in Lagos and they’ll believe you, because almost everything you’ll see in Lagos is there.
15. If you’re a professional(doctor, nurse, engineer and the likes) japa, you’ll make money abroad.
If you want to make serious money, understand that you’re competing with people who already have capital, networks, and leverage.
You’re not just competing on skill. You’re competing on resources.
That’s why trying to do everything alone is a disadvantage. You need strong relationships, solid partnerships, and people who can lock in, share knowledge, and move faster with you.
“I don’t have friends” is not a flex.
“I don’t like asking for help” is even worse.
Because the people you’re competing with are collaborating, pooling resources, and accelerating each other.
You don’t win big alone.
Dangote just signed a $1 billion deal with a Chinese firm called Sinoma to build 12 new cement plants across Africa.
Twelve.
Northern Nigeria. Ethiopia. Tanzania. Zambia. Zimbabwe. Sierra Leone. Cameroon. And expansions in Itori, Apapa, Lekki, PH and Onne on top of that.
80 million tonnes of cement per year by 2030. That’s the target.
But the number that should really wake you up is this one. Dangote Group is chasing $100 billion in revenue by 2030. Not naira. Dollars. While everybody is waiting for foreign investors to come and save Africa, one man from Kano is building the infrastructure backbone of this continent himself.
Refinery. Cement. Gas. Fertilizer. These are not sexy industries. Nobody is making reels about cement. But every single road, bridge and housing estate on this continent needs it. And Dangote is positioning to supply almost all of it.
This is probably the biggest business story in Africa this year and I promise you most people will scroll past it because nobody is dancing and there’s no drama.
Don’t be most people.