@ceraliza No but this is actually kinda nice? None of this seems malicious? He has a gf, he admitted to his gf his wrong doing and explained why he didn’t just reject her outright (which is kind, bc it does take courage to do that) & the gf has a brother who needs a gf & you want a man!
PLEASE respect people's jobs. Nobody grew up with the intention of being a cleaner, shelf packer, cashier, security guard, taxi driver, car cleaner, a bartender, or store general worker. We all had big dreams but life happened.
The craziest part? I started believing him.
I stopped taking pictures. Stopped wearing certain outfits. Started sucking my stomach in around someone who had literally seen me naked.
That’s when I realized body shaming doesn’t always sound cruel. Sometimes it sounds like “advice.” Sometimes it sounds like “motivation.” Sometimes it sounds like a boyfriend slowly convincing you that love is something you earn by shrinking yourself.
The relationship ended after he cheated on me with one of the “perfect” girls he used to compare me to.
And do you know what healed me?
A year later he introduced the girlfriend to our kids.
She left him six months after realizing he was broke, bitter, and living in a furnished rental.
Turns out sneaking around is exciting until laundry and bills enter the relationship.
My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant with our second child.
Not emotionally cheated. Full relationship. Vacations, gifts, matching bracelets the whole embarrassing midlife-crisis starter pack.
When I found out, he begged me not to leave because he “couldn’t afford child support and alimony.”
That sentence healed me instantly.
Imagine cheating on your wife and then asking HER to help YOU avoid consequences.
I stopped crying that same day.
As you get older you realise that first red flag that you ignored will be the reason you break up 2 years later.
And you will regret not walking away that first time.
@TheTennisLetter she ate with acknowledging how there are always all white dinner parties and no one blinks twice to acknowledge the innate exclusion of that … yet it’s immediately and issue for white people when there’s no caucus representation
Naomi Osaka on why she chose to host a party for the black tennis players:
“You know I'm seeing a little bit of-
‘Why can't you love everyone for all skin tones?’ and ‘what if someone had an all white party?! First of all I do love everyone for who they are no matter their race + ethnicity, (I'm literally half Japanese lol). I can only speak from my experiences in my own life though, growing up as a tennis player I didn't see many people that looked like ME and I feel like it's important to celebrate them.
Secondly I feel like it's important to note that there have been all white dinners/parties. I don't know how else to tell you this, I literally seen them all the time and never had an issue with it at all. To the people who ask this question I want to ask you this question too, ‘What is it about POC getting together that unsettles you so much?’
I want to end this by saying I grew up watching my dad get discriminated against, having the cops called on him multiple times at the tennis court. There are multiple things I will apologize for in my life but celebrating being black and appreciating who we are will never be something I would consider saying sorry for. Thanks.
Actually I lied, I am sorry. I'm sorry for the people who cannot comprehend in their brains that this is not about exclusion, this is a celebration about how far we have come 🖤”
(via Naomi on Threads)
In 1998, I was fired from my corporate job while 9 months pregnant because and I quote, “my priorities would be elsewhere after the baby is born.”
The lawyer I hired told me I didn’t have a case because discrimination like “that” was almost impossible to prove.
So I got pissed.
Took the LSAT. Went to law school. Passed the bar. Had 3 more kids.
Twelve years later, another woman from that same company was fired for the same reason. She sued them for a million dollars, and won, partly because I had kept every piece of evidence from what happened to me years prior demonstrating a systemic pattern of discrimination against women.
That company no longer exists. My law practice is thriving. And that baby they said would derail my priorities? She’s a brilliant attorney now working at my firm.
Turns out my priorities were indeed, elsewhere.
There are Black men doing hard time for this.
There are Black men doing hard time for this.
There are Black men doing hard time for this.
There are Black men doing hard time for this.