You were told that a “good Muslim wife” is quiet.
Never disagrees.
Never asks difficult questions.
Never challenges her husband.
But where did that idea actually come from?
Because it wasn’t the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.
My wife was feeling anxious this night.
I had work, but urged her to get away.
I would watch the kids,
An hour later she returned home with donuts and an iced coffee for each of us and a SMILE.
Take care of your partner first
It's ALWAYS worth it.
The true bandits are not the ones in the bushes, they are the ones in the cities, they are in our offices, they are our neighbors, our political leaders, our security agents, they are the informants, the master strategist, they plan everything, supply everything, finance everything, they know everything, if you get them, you’ll be done with these pawns in the bushes, until they are exposed and destroyed, banditry will persist.
I always find it funny when some men equate financial dependence with respect.
If your wife needs to be completely dependent on you before she can respect you, then what you're looking for is not respect o my brother you’re looking for control.
A woman having her own income doesn't stop her from respecting her husband.
Respect and submissiveness comes naturally when you treat your woman right.
Dear Youngmen.
Make your wife 100% dependent on you, never agree to all this 50/50 cos she works , even 90/10 do not do.
Take care of her 100%, you will get 100% respect, respect is the bedrock marriage, once respect is gone marriage is gone.
Banditry, ku ne
Out of school children, ku ne
Lack of portable drinking water, ku ne
Good hospitals, Babu
Amma nafisa abdullahi ta ce ba za tayi aure ba shi ne kuke ta da jiyoyin wuya
A submissive woman can't build a home with an unsubmissive man! An accountable woman can't build a home with an unaccountable man! A faithful woman can't build a home with a community penis!
A prayerful woman can't build a home with a prayer-less man!
When will u men get this?
No matter how much you love Islam or how passionate you are about it, you will appreciate and enjoy it even more when you discover it for yourself rather than merely inheriting it. Self-conviction is stronger than inherited conviction.
Inheriting the religion is a blessing, but discovering it through your own knowledge/understanding and conviction is a greater blessing.
When I first moved to Europe, I had the mentality that only Arabs practiced islam better than Northern Arewa people. One day, I accompanied my friend to see a native Dutch Muslimah he wanted to marry. She reverted a couple of years ago and to my surprise, she was in full hijab head to toe, you could barely see even her fingers and her Mahram was present. When I expressed shock, he told me they never meet without her Mahram and though he has her number, they never had private conversations without the presence of her Mahram. They communicated only through a watsaap group where her Mahram was present. I was shocked to see native Dutch practicing islam with much principle, discipline & passion than many of us the so called “born muslims”.
I believe one of the greatest shortcomings of Nigerians, especially Northerners, is our tendency to leave everything to God while neglecting our own responsibilities.
This mindset has played a role in where we find ourselves after more than 60 years of independence.
Faith is important, but we cannot expect divine intervention while doing little or nothing to address our challenges ourselves.
What he is quoting and teaching is from the Sharia. That’s the law. I swear by the Almighty who created me, if the sections of the Sharia on capital punishment are borrowed by the government to tackle banditry, kidnapping, and insurgency, in 6 months, it will be a thing of the past. Nobody will dare call himself a bandit, identify with a kidnapper, not to mention kidnapping somebody for ransom. But when we are ready as a nation, we will do the right thing.
May the Almighty preserve Dr. Lafiaji in goodness.
People have become more self-centered. They don’t try to understand the feelings, needs & problems of others. They’re keen on satisfying their own needs, even by hurting others. Don’t let up. Continue spreading values of honesty, sincerity, integrity & compassion.