As a parent you shouldn't be telling your kids that you sacrificed your life for them, It’s hurtful and manipulative, and it’s not true. You chose to have your kids and nobody forced you to have them. Taking care of them is your responsibility.
God please help to never do this to any man who didn’t marry me cos it’s not worth it 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭he went and impregnated another girl as I was baking him scones
Unfortunately I don't do nonchalant men. Be dominant. Be clingy. Be touchy. Watch my location. Plan dates. Show up. Bring freaking flowers. BE OBSESSED.
One time I missed my period. I panicked. I told him.
He was quiet.
Then he said, “So what are you going to do?”
I said, “WE? What are we going to do?”
He replied, “I’m not ready to be a father.”
Okay.
But the funny part is, this is the same man who was always saying: “I want a baby with you.” “You’d be a good mother.” “I want to put a baby in you.”
So you want to put it in… but you don’t want to take care of it?
I went to the clinic. Turns out it was stress.
When I told him I wasn’t pregnant, he was suddenly happy. He even said, “Thank God.”
I stared at him. Then I smiled.
Because that day I realized, some men don’t love you. They love the benefits of you.
And the moment responsibility shows up, they start acting like victims.
I left him shortly after. Not because of the scare… but because I saw the future and it looked like single motherhood.
The last man who told me that I should smile more didn’t like my response. I told him he should workout more.
When he got visibly angry, I innocently said, “What’s wrong? I thought we were making unwanted comments about each other’s physical appearances! Is that not what we were doing?”
I read a quote that said, “You can be the prettiest shade of green, but you’ll never be enough for someone whose favorite color is blue,” and it really stuck with me.
Parents can say the most hurtful things to you while your brain is still developing, shape your entire adult mindset, and then forget they ever said it by the next day.
If abortion is illegal because “s*x has natural consequences,” then liver transplants for alcoholics and lung transplants for smokers should be illegal too because consequences, darling, are so consistent.
Parental 'sacrifice' is a myth. A child's wellbeing is a parent's responsibility, not a favour. Any sacrifice is yours to bear, not theirs to repay.
Raise them fully cognizant of your challenges but know that it's duty, not charity.