Alex Solomin

Helping people create the best version if themselves so they can feel comfortable in their own skin

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

The first time I looked at a photo of myself and didn't flinch, I had to sit down.

I'd spent so long hating what I saw that not hating it felt foreign to me.

I've kept the weight off for over a decade. That moment is a big reason why.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

Unpopular opinion

Losing weight doesn't just test your discipline, it tests whether you'll finally keep a promise to yourself.

You've broken that promise so many times you stopped trusting yourself to keep it.

People think you're rebuilding your body.

You're rebuilding your own word.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

How you look is the smallest thing the weight takes from you.

You reach the top of one flight of stairs and check your phone so nobody hears you breathing.

Getting up off the floor takes a plan and a piece of furniture.

Every restaurant gets a quick scan for the chair without armrests.

Your closet holds three different sizes, and you know which one you're wearing this month.

Someone gathers everyone for a photo and you end up behind the camera, again.

The scale never measured any of that.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

Yeah, things are busy right now.

Things will still be busy in the fall.

And during the holiday season.

And in January when you fell like there's a 'fresh start'

The moment you say "I'll start when things settle down", you're basically "I'll quit the moment things get busy again."

Things will never be calm. Start when you're busy, or you'll keep starting over.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

I could give you the body of your dreams tomorrow.

The small waist, the shoulders, all of it.

Here it is, take it.

And you'd lose it all within a year.

Because you never learned how to become the person who can maintain it.

The body isn't the goal, it's the receipt.

You've spent years chasing the result and skipping the only thing that makes it stick: becoming that person.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

Nobody warns you that losing the weight changes things that have nothing to do with the weight.

Someone compliments you and you actually believe them.
You stop trying to out-angle every photo.
You stop trying on 5 different outfits before you leave the house.
You walk into a room and you're not scanning who in here is smaller than you.

The weight was never the main thing. It was everything the weight was controlling in the background.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

The difference between people who lose weight and keep it off and people who stay stuck for 20 years isn't discipline.

One group stopped treating it like a diet and started treating it like keeping a promise to themselves.

And you can see it in how they carry themselves.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

I spent years at 365 pounds avoiding every camera in the room.

I told myself I didn't care how I looked.

Truth is, I cared so much it was running my whole life.

The day I stopped pretending the weight wasn't affecting everything was the day it started coming off.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

The people who lost weight and kept it off didn't find a better diet. They broke the loop.

The loop of being perfect all week, quitting by Saturday, and starting over Monday.

Fix that and you'll never need to diet.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

I spent years at 365 pounds avoiding every camera in the room.

I told myself I didn't care how i looked.

Truth is, I cared so much it was running my whole life.

The day I stopped pretending the weight wasn't affecting everything was the day it started coming off.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

Nobody wants to hear this

A bad day at work hits different when you already hate how you feel in your own skin.

Good moments hit different when you're distracted by how you look in every photo.

Remove the weight and the rest of your life gets lighter too.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

One bad meal never made anyone gain weight.

The "I blew it, I'll start Monday" is what does.

You don't need to be perfect. You just can't miss twice.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

If someone told you they've read 47 books, then you found out they only read the first chapter of each one, you wouldn't call them a reader.

You'd call them someone who keeps opening books.

That's you with diets.

You think you've tried everything. No, you've started everything.

The diet industry profits every time you start, and no one sells you a finish.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

You think you have a lot of problems, until your health becomes one.

Then you only have one problem.

The rest were never as urgent as you made them.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

Losing weight and keeping it off works like a best of 7 series.

You only have to win 4 games to advance.

You win 3 games, then one bad Saturday derails you. So you scrap the whole series and wait for Monday, like the 3 wins never counted.

You were winning, then you forfeited.

You don't need a perfect week. Win 4 out of 7. Lose 3 and still win the series.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

You keep calling yourself “inconsistent” like it’s your name.

It’s not. It’s a label you started answering to
after enough failed plans.

What you think is failure is really you losing trust in yourself.

And the way back isn’t another extreme diet.

It’s proving to yourself, one repeatable action at a time, that you CAN follow through.

Until follow-through starts to feel normal again.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

Being called “lazy” only hurts if part of you believes it.

Same with inconsistent, undisciplined, or out of control.

If someone called you by the wrong name, you wouldn’t answer.

So why keep answering to labels that came from your worst seasons?

You just lost trust in yourself after too many failed attempts.

The way to regain that trust isn’t with another extreme plan.

It’s with proving to yourself one repeatable action at a time, that you CAN follow through.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

There's a reason people who are in shape get the benefit of the doubt

You say you can do hard things and not quit halfway through.

You say you can delay gratification.

You say you show up for yourself even when no one is watching.

And people read it instantly. Because how you show up for yourself is usually how you show up for everyone else.

[Alex Solomin @TheAlexSolomin]

Being in shape at 25 rarely gets noticed.

At 35 it's rare.

At 45 it's a unicorn.

At 55? People assume you're hiding a secret.

There is no secret. People underestimate how rare it is to simply not quit.