It has become clear to me that aging itself does not bring wisdom. It often brings regression to childishness, dependency & bitterness over lost opportunities. Only those who are still intellectually, emotionally, spiritually growing inherit the richness of aging.~James Hollis
Nature never punishes the evil. Nature punishes the weak because nature does not know morality, nature doesn't know what is right and what is wrong. And storms never choose victim based on morality. It punishes the weakness, not weakness of character, but weakness to adapt, to evolve, to endure it. Reality rewards resilience. Resilience that can we survive the condition which we have, can we survive the circumstances which are given to us, the person who is resilient enough, the person who is aware enough can actually move through their challenges. That is why nature rewards strength and nature will keep on punishing the weak unless and until that weak become strong. Because that is the only way of evolution. That is the only way of growing.
One of the better things about having gone to an all boys school, is you have a true frame of reference of what dudes are really like over prolonged periods when they have no one to impress
I have never in my life done some shit to someone unprovoked & I actually do everything I can to avoid hurting people, even if they’ve hurt me. So if you’ve gotten the worst of me, I promise it was earned & I am not sorry. You fucked around and found out
Nobody tells you this: the single most transformative habit isn't meditation, exercise, or journaling. It's catching yourself mid-pattern and choosing differently. In real time. Not in reflection. Not in hindsight. In the actual moment. That micro-interruption is worth more than any morning routine.
The older I get, the more I realize composure is a form of intelligence. When everyone else is reacting, the person who can slow down, observe clearly, and reason from reality has an enormous advantage.
no one talks about the personality shift in your 30s where you no longer want to be impressive you just want to be rested, regulated, and completely unavailable to anything that drains you