One idea that has revolutionized my thinking is this: you are allowed to not want things.
You can look at everything society tells you that you need to have and just be like, “Nope. I will not be participating.”
You'd never find a Nigerian born and raised in Nigeria talking about their "Nigerianness" like it's the whole essence of their existence.
This is why she always comes off as an act, even when she's trying to be real. Her Nigerianness always seems so forced and exaggerated.
I haven't yet articulated the words to describe the level of cringe I feel when this woman and her likes come on my screens.
I understand staying true to your roots, but your nationality is not a personality trait.
Love is a universal emotion that even the wickedest humans are not exempt from.
What Bonnie and Clyde shared was a powerful expression of true love and shared values.
Unfortunately, I have to admit that I have not done my best. My current situation is a direct consequence of my incompetence. I suck at doing this life thing.
Shame thrives in secrecy, alongside it's besties guilt & regret.
To break its hold over you, you'd have to be open about what you're ashamed of.
When you say it out loud regardless of people's judgement, the shame fizzles out, and you can work towards progress unencumbered.