Generational curses. Your parents get the bad habits of their parents. You get those same bad habits. Maybe your kids get them?
There are also generational curses with leadership.
I have seen people get treated terribly by their leader, just to then 5 years later unknowingly repeat the same behavior to their direct reports.
We learn by experience, so we have to unlearn by experience as well. Replace your knowledge with new knowledge. Replace your bad experiences with good experiences. If you dont, there is only one will to draw from, and its poisoned.
When I start talking to new leaders about casting vision, I try to word it something like this...
"You should talk to your team about your opinions, and why you have them."
That is the heart of vision.
Story Time
Years ago, I was getting frustrated at work. I would go into meetings and it seemed like a decision had already been made, and the meeting was just a formality.
I talked to a mentor, and they told me about the concept of "stacking the deck".
Stacking the deck is when you find out who is going to be in a meeting, and you go around and have 1-1s with those people, an talk ideas and get them on your side, or find out the objections to your idea before the meeting. Then once its time to meet, you have already built support.
Play the game. Stack the deck.
Question for my fellow chill christians.
So, I'm going through Leviticus, and I'm reading "the law". I have always held to the belief that God doesn't change, and that the law was given to the Israelites so that they would align with God's idea of morality and purity.
The freedom from the law that christians have through Jesus, what does that mean on a technical level? Are we still supposed to align with the law, but the sacrifice for sin has been eternally paid for?
I ask because the common language I see around this insinuates that we can Ignore the law, because it doesn't apply anymore.
I think everyone would agree that leadership isn't passive.
So then by default, its nature is aggressive.
Leaders call things out, good and bad. Leaders step into situations and affect change.
There are 2 options for growth in the christian church.
1. More church plants.
2. Growing the average church attendance in the churches we already have.
Both are good to do, but when your average church attendance in the US is only 75 people, i see more potential for option 2.
Honesty is important, but wearing your heart on your sleeve isn’t always wise.
Honesty can shift focus from solving problems to just venting emotions. And knowing what everyone "truly feels" usually isnt helpful.
Leadership calls for restraint and prioritizing solutions.