The Hot Mess Mama

💕Hot Mess Mama to ✌️👶 3 & 👇
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Here to make moms 🤣 + show you you're not alone.
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Pull up a virtual chair. I'll move the dirty laundry over to make room. ❤

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

You're not broken. Messed up. Crazy. Or lazy.

There's nothing wrong with you.

You're healing.

And that's exactly what's suppose to happen.

You're not alone.

We're in this together.

I see you. I ❤️ you. Keep going.
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#hotmessmama #healingjourney #traumahealing #momcalm #nervoussystemhealing #cyclebreaker #onedayatatime #supporthealing

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

@mommypotamus Look delicious!

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@WellnessMama We love our walks on the beach, running from the waves! <3

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@MeganBkind Perfect! :)

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@resilientmindsx I know about 20 seconds of breath work makes a huge difference! <3

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

Are you gaslighting your own trauma?

Trauma is trauma, no matter how deep.
It can drown you either way.

What you went through is valid.
It matters.
And you can learn how to swim after.

I see you.
If you can relate to this, let me know. 😘
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#hotmessmama #traumamama #healingjourney #traumahealing #traumarecovery #emotionalawareness #letsheal #yougotthis #cyclebreaker

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

Do you feel uncomfortable when you cry?

Crying signals your body to release endorphins and oxytocin to both relieve emotional stress and physical pain.

So just like Elsa sang, "Let it gooooo", I whisper the same to myself when I'm tempted to hold the tears in. 😉🥰

Healing from trauma is hard work and if you're on that journey, I see you. Keep going. 👏
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#traumamama #traumahealing #traumaresponse #cry #hotmessmama #tears #trauma #healingjourney

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

Healing is hard work.
And rest is essential to the healing process.
Rest is GROWTH, even when it doesn't feel like it.♥️

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

🦋 Butterflies seek shelter when the sky starts to get dark.
They rest in safety from the rain or strong winds to protect their wings.

It doesn't mean they don't know how to fly.
It doesn't mean they are weak.
It doesn't mean they won't fly again.

And healing from trauma is exactly the same. ♥️

You're healing because you're strong enough.
And you're resting to protect your wings as you heal.
You're doing it right, keep going.

💭Comment MOMCALM and I'll send you steps to calm your nervous system as you heal.

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

It's me, hi 👋, I'm the problem, it's me.

Just unprocessed childhood trauma showing up everyday in motherhood.

Ya know when your toddler's behavior triggers you and you think if you could "fix" their behavior, you'd feel better?

Beeeeen there. But what I know now is that the degree to which I heal directly impacts the degree that I can parent well. ❤️

Drop A MOMCALM and I'll send you the steps you can take to curate mom calm as you heal. 😘

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

Oh heyyyyyy there anxiety + depression, muscle tension, sleep issues + more.

What's that you say? You're my unhealed trauma?

Gotcha. 👍

I struggled to even say the word trauma much less admit I had some to process, but trust me, it is work with doing!

Comment TRAUMA if you're curious if might have unprocessed trauma.

Or comment MOMCALM and I'll send you steps you can take to start to heal your nervous system.

Either way, mama, you're not alone! ❤️
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#momlife #traumahealing #traumawork #toddlermom #hotmessmama #momswhoheal

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

Healing from past trauma?
🛁Enter : trauma healing bath

👉 Epsom Salt : Unresolved trauma from years ago can create a buildup of stress toxins that your body needs to release. Epsom salt support the liver's natural detoxification process.

👉 Liquid Magnesium: Stress & anxiety depletes the body's magnesium levels, which can further the cycle. It can also release inflammation which might be a physical manifestation of emotional trauma.

👉 Baking Soda: The alkalinity helps restore your body to a state of homeostasis, balance, & helps reduce anxiety.

Don't forget a candle and a good book or some relaxing music. 📖🕯️🎶

Comment MOMCALM and I'll send you the other steps I'm taking to heal my nervous system along this process.

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

It might be a trauma response, but I'm working on it. 😊🤔😉

It's quite common, at the beginning of your trauma healing journey, to struggle admitting it even happened.

Here are some other trauma responses you might not know are trauma responses.

Drop a yes if you can relate to this at all and I can dive more into each one.

And drop a MOMCALM and I'll send you the steps I'm taking to start to heal my nervous system along this process.

And I'm proud of you, mama, for doing this work on you!
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#traumahealing #traumawork #traumaresponse #childhoodtrauma #thetword #hotmessmama #toddlermom #healingjourney #momencouragement

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

It's true.

I thought "trauma" was only for the people in the crime scene documentaries.

Except.... I wasn't on dateline and the word applies to me.
And maybe to you, too.

But I'm determined to heal.

Because I know the degree that I can parent well is tied to the degree that I'm able to heal myself.

So if you're in your your healing era, let's be friends. 🥰

Comment MOMCALM and I'll send you how I'm starting to heal my nervous system along this process.

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

I knew all of my online shopping was wise. 🛒😂

Sometimes my tiny humans help me unload the dishwasher, cook, or tidy up the kitchen. And sometimes mama just needs a little quiet while I get a few things done.

For the latter, they love this activity because they get to stay in the same room as me and get creative. 🤩

I put them each in their own box and give them each one highlighter or washable marker, explain that it's for the box only 🤞, turn on the Alexa, and enjoy. 😍

*Real sounds... Love the quiet.. Even if it doesn't last long. 👏
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#hotmessmama #momhacks #toddlerplay #toddlerlife #toddleractivity #toddlermom #tinyhumans #momreels #momtok #quietactivity #momssharing

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

Prioritizing protein is a big goal for me right now and tonight I found a keeper of a recipe with 75 grams per bowl.

Cut up a sweet potato into 1/2 inch cubes. Toss in olive oil and spices. Roast at 425 for 20 min.

Cook up a pound of ground beef with spices. Rinse a can of black beans and add to beef.

Compile bowl with beef and beans, sweet potato, sour cream or greek yogurt, some cheese, and of course hot sauce. Mix and enjoy.

Would your family eat this?
Any other high protein meals I should try?
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#momlife #hotmessmama #mamacooks #kitchen #dinner #cookathome #protein #proteinowl #mealidea #momreels

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

We have two toddlers three and under who we love gobs and gobs, but we're more than just Mama + Dada.

We were husband and wife first.

We're on a mission to go on at least 24 dates in 2024.

Want to take the challenge with us?
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#24in2024 #datenight #datenightchallenge #hotmessmama #hotmessmamasociety #marriage #toddlermom #wifey

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

I hot-mess-proof my sourdough because I'm a hot mess mama who loves to feel like a real life little house on the prairie mom but with AC. 🤣🤣

This tip just makes me feel better. Drop a ME if you're on the sourdough journey with me!
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#hotmessmama #sourdough #sourdoughstarter #starter #sourdoughbread #sourdoughbaking #momlife #sourdoughjourney #funinthekitchen

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

I'm a hot mess mama who WILL master my mindset because I have two precious tiny humans that are going to hear MY voice in their heads their while lives counting on me.

I've dedicated over 300 hours to learning this so far and it's ready to be shared with hot mess mamas everywhere.

Comment HOTMESS and I'll send you the link to read all about hot mess mastery. ❤️
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#hotmessmama #tinyhumans #momlife #mamamindset #hotmessmamasociety #hotmessmastery #mindsetmastery #myvoice #generations #cyclebreaker #lovemykids #lifecoaching #mindsetcoaching #momcommunity

[The Hot Mess Mama @TheHotMessMama_]

The imperfect moms are the BEST moms. Because they're the ones not afraid to be real, mess up, do their best, and try every day.

That's why I started the Hot Mess Mama Society. For me. And you. The ones that are exactly the moms our kids need.

Comment imperfect for the link.
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#imperfect #real #hotmessmama #momlife
#perfectisfake #toddlermom #momfriends