Job interviews are always like, “What can you do?”
Sir, I’m a millennial born in the ’90s. Just tell me what you need me to know, and I’ll have it mastered by Thursday.
The older I get the more I realize, calm is the real wealth. Living a very private life. Away. Alone. Observing. Thinking. Learning. Being bored. Creating something meaningful. A quiet day, sunlight, coffee, music, books, and stillness. That'll do.
Sheldon cooper said, " I know you think you’re being generous, but the foundation of gift-giving is reciprocity. You haven’t given me a gift, you’ve given me an obligation. The essence of the custom is that I now have to go and purchase a gift of commensurate value and representing the same level of friendship as that represented by the gift you’ve given me. "
One of the loneliest experiences in adult life is wanting a relationship that is just slightly beyond what the person you love is capable of giving.
Not because they're bad or because they don't care. But because there's a gap between what you need and what they can offer, between the depth you're reaching for and the depth they're able to go and no amount of love on either side closes it.
You've had the conversations. You've explained what you need as clearly and patiently as you possibly can. They've listened, they've tried but it's still not quite there...not quite the emotional presence you need, not quite the level of intimacy you're starving for, not quite the partnership you imagined when you chose this person. Close enough that leaving feels absurd but far enough that staying hurts in a quiet, constant way.
You're allowed to need what you need. And you're allowed to grieve the specific sadness of loving someone who genuinely tries and still cannot give it to you.
My daughter got sent out of class for being too sarcastic today.
The teacher said, "What would your parents say if I called them?"
She replied, "Hello!"