High empathy sucks cause when you understand why people are the way they are you realize most people aren't truly evil they're just dumb and incapable of viewing the world outside of their own experiences which makes it hard to truly hate them even if they are ugly inside.
i saw a girl on tiktok who said "accountability is so important to me. nobody's perfect, but don't try to flip the script and make my reaction the issue when your actions lit the match" i felt this to the core.
The most exhausting, unspoken burden on men in modern dating is that they are expected to be the sole architects of the relationship. A man is expected to initiate the first text, plan the dates, fund the experiences, orchestrate the proposal, and constantly drive the romance forward. We have completely normalized a culture where a woman’s mere presence is considered her "effort." The absolute second a man gets tired of being the only engine keeping the relationship moving and asks for equal romantic effort, he is instantly accused of being "inconsistent" or "low effort." We demand 50/50 modern equality, but aggressively enforce traditional male burdens the exact moment romance is involved.
The absolute darkest truth about how society views men is that we do not actually value male life; we only value what a man is willing to destroy himself to provide. Think about the male archetypes we actually celebrate. The soldier who doesn't come home. The father who works three grueling jobs until his heart gives out. The athlete who permanently destroys his brain and body for our entertainment. We only applaud masculinity when it is actively bleeding for the benefit of someone else. The exact moment a man decides he wants to step off the treadmill—to prioritize his own peace, his mental health, or his physical safety over his utility to the world—he is instantly branded as lazy, weak, or unambitious. We don’t want men to be whole, healthy, or at peace. We want them to be highly functioning shock absorbers. We demand they build the houses, fight the wars, and fund the lifestyles, and our only reward for this lifelong, crushing expectation is a quiet funeral when the stress finally kills them
"If a concept cannot survive contact with the situation it describes it's probably not describing reality; it’s describing a model people invented" is an elite thesis statement. Y’all come look at this 👇🏽