Crysthian Medina

Life was hard. Corporate and I broke up. I survived. Here I'm sharing "the how" in a digestible way... that became my life.

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

The feeling of shame when dating sometimes is not about rejection.
It is about the fear that the rejection would confirm your fears.

And that specific fear is what makes certain rejections hurt completely out of proportion to what actually happened.

#Dating

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

The person who wants to disappear after a disagreement is not being dramatic.
They are someone whose brain read the situation as a threat to who they are, not just to what happened.

Understanding that may change your perception.
#Relationships

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

Did it ever happen that after something slightly embarrassing on a date, you went quiet for the rest of the evening?

Not because of what happened.
Because of what you were afraid it said about you.

More on TikTok and IG. #Dating

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

Did it ever happen that after an argument, one feeling made you want to apologize, and a completely different feeling made you want to go quiet for days? Those are not the same response to the same situation. More on TikTok and IG. #Relationships

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The feeling that makes you want to disappear is not the same as the feeling that makes you want to fix something. Naming the difference between them is the beginning of being able to do something useful with either one. More on TikTok and IG. #MentalHealth

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

Shame does not arrive after every mistake. It arrives after the ones that feel like confirmation of something you were already afraid was true about yourself. That distinction explains a lot about why some mistakes stay with us, and others do not. #Leadership

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

The urge to disappear after something goes wrong is not dramatic. It is the amygdala activating. The brain reads the situation as a threat. The body executes a protective response before the thinking brain has had a chance to evaluate. More on LinkedIn and TikTok. #Shame

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Shame and guilt feel similar from the outside. From the inside, they are completely different states. Guilt wants to repair. Shame wants to hide. And treating them as the same thing is one of the most common mistakes in how we respond to failure at work. #Shame #Leadership

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

Did it ever happen that you made a mistake at work, knew exactly what to fix, and still could not shake the feeling that it said something about you that went beyond the mistake? That gap is worth understanding. More on LinkedIn and TikTok this week. #Shame #Neuroscience

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

@anah_sahh There is not even "before" intelligence for humanity, let aside "super" or "coming after"

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

@danmartell You're either about to have a stroke, you did and most of your braon is gone.
Or, you're actually talking from the true meaning of richness and poorness that has nothing to do with money and assets. 🤘🏼

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

@ianamikagautam Is because they haven't been created for the well being of everyone, but only for those at the top.
What comes next is even worse. They will enforce you to work.

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@mountainwesttax Imagine expecting something from someone just because you think "that's the way it should be".
Beside being indoctrinated, I think the psychopath is in your mirror.

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

@pmitu -》Emotional balance

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@poteto Why?

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@Rossy_winget Great questions since they seem the opposite.

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

@readswithravi 100% and even those things you're unaware.

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@aubreystrobel Why?

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@danellisona A startup that can help him and all the ignorant people as him to understand compassion.

[Crysthian Medina @TheMindfulGrump]

The next relationship does not have to carry the weight of every previous one. -> But it will, unless the weight from those has been processed rather than just set aside.
Setting aside and suppressing, are way different than processing #Dating #Mindfulness