“Men are natural leaders” until it’s time to plan dates or do chores and then it’s just “tell me what you want, make me a list, tell me what you need me to do”
Hm
the longer i go without something, the more i'm okay with never having it again. and once i detach from someone or something completely, reconnection with me becomes impossible because i know what it took for me to finally let go. once i'm done, i'm done.
I think that’s partly due to it being a cultural norm. In the white community, teens take their partners home in high school and families are guiding those relationships. Black teens are taught dating is a crime and are then expected to pull a spouse and kids out a hat
A narcissist ngga will make sure everybody OUTSIDE the house think he the realest dude alive. Always smiling, always helping folks, always tryna be the hero where people can see it. But behind closed doors? He a cold, dismissive, emotionally draining, ngga that treat the ones who love him the worst. Baby, he don’t care about being a good man… he care about LOOKING like one. That image mean way more to him than his actual character.
Call it a millennial crisis if you want...
But in my 30's, I realized I don't actually want the life I worked so hard for. I don't care about titles. I don't care about climbing anyone else's ladder. I care about time. I care about slow mornings. I care about peace.I care about bare feet at the beach with nowhere to be.
I still want to make money... just not at the cost of my life.
Just to be clear, if my child goes out with y’all and y’all return and my child is nowhere to be found, and there’s no answer in sight, your moms are going to be just as sad as I am.
Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
and if love ever finds me again, i hope it's with someone who thinks about how their actions affect me,someone who considers my feelings before making choices and values my peace as much as their own because I'm not here to survive love again, I'm here to finally live it
One day gents you must understand that women are reciprocators, not initiators. They step AFTER y’all step. You lead, they FOLLOW. Idk how else to explain this but it’s really SO simple.
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