Sometimes sitting in the acid of loss and failure is good for the soul. Since when was grit built by simply finding the rainbow in the sky? Noah had to first build the boat and survive the unprecedented storm. The rainbow was a promise it was not a replacement for his hardship.
Understanding who you are and who you want to be is the first step to anything and everything you engage with your time. This dictates opportunities, social interaction, and how you handle the tough times.
Your perspective is vision for what you create. It is always more important to aim before you squeeze the trigger. The achievement of dreams does not happen if you are truly being honest with yourself.