One of my batchmates in first year used to do all this chivalry and performative love gestures copied from Instagram for his girlfriend. They were like the ideal couple in my batch. Fast forward to final year, that guy has now turned into a Devdas after he found out that his girlfriend was sleeping with a senior in the same hostel.
Every guy who has been a true lover boy at some point has been betrayed or cheated on by women. Women are not loyal creatures.
There is an African Proverb that I love:
“A cat that dreams of becoming a lion must lose its appetite for rats.”
Meaning: To achieve greatness, you must let go of old habits that could hold back your progress.
Major cheat code for life: Master the art of the fresh start. From a bad morning. From a bad interaction. From a missed workout. From a poor decision. The goal isn't to avoid the fall. It's to shorten the time between the fall and the reset. Fast recovery compounds.
one of the main reasons i’m so gentle with myself is cause i believe i’ve already experienced enough hardship in my life. i’ve already been mishandled and undervalued by others and myself at times. so i deserve more patience, forgiveness, and consideration at this point.
After a certain age, your parents slowly become your children. They ask simple questions, repeat stories, and depend on your patience the way you once depended on theirs. Very few understand this role reversal. What looks like innocence or inconvenience is really time coming full circle. Don't correct them harshly. Don't rush them. Care for them the way they once protected you. This is not a burden. It is repayment.
@the_psyche_lab Rather than him looking out for a partner it seems he is trying to land another job. Although the scenario is definitely made up, a person cannot expect to actually have so many filter. Rather, go and buy a robot. He is bound to get disappointed.