1. Abraham ……2 wives
2. Jacob….. 4 wives
3. David .……4 wives
4. Solo...... 700 wives
5. Rehoboam….. 18 wives
6. Elkana…..2 wives
8. Lemech .....2 wives
And they all found favor in the eyes of the Lord.
Anyway, I was just reading the Bible😂😂
WHY AFRICAN MEN WHO RELOCATE TO THE WEST FIND THEIR RELATIONSHIPS DIFFICULT
It's now become a common to hear stories of African men who migrated to the West complaining about their marriages. And much of it, stems from the change in lifestyle/habits from their women
Here's a look at why they struggle so much
1. NO GENDER ROLES - unlike in Africa where they're gender roles, it's a different case in the West. The man is expected to do some of the duties which would be traditionally for the woman
And this is where our African brothers struggle, coming from a set-up whereby as the husband he's not expected to clean the house, do laundry, cook and wash the dishes
It crashes their masculine spirit, now having to do a woman's duties
2. THE WOMAN EARNS - in the West, the women almost earn as much as the men. This means the provider mentality the African man was raised up on is disregarded
Without the breadwinner title, most of them don't have an identity. Men generally want to feel needed and in Africa the number 1 need of almost every woman is money. So when money is taken out of the equation, the man is left confused, as to what else can he be needed for
3. WOMEN IN THE WEST HAVE SO MUCH POWER - the Western society is feminized, it is so biased towards women to such a point that it affects marriages
And the women know this, such that they start abusing this power. It gets so bad to such a point that the man ends up in what can be termed a PINS AND NEEDLES relationship. This is a relationship whereby the man walks on eggshells
He is always second guessing all his words and actions, such that he doesn't piss the wife, who can just end up making life miserable for him.
4. SHE NEVER LOVED HIM - most men only discover this once they've relocated with the African wife to the West. With all the powers women have there, she can finally show her true colors
Most women in Africa are with their husbands as a means to escape poverty. Once they have economic opportunities in the West, they have no reason to pretend anymore
She'll do everything in her power to make your life a living hell, knowing very well should you even divorce, she's almost guaranteed to get half of everything you have
Learn OR perish
Stop paying women to be your wife. A real wife isn’t there to cost you money. She’s someone who helps you earn better, manage smarter, save more and build something that actually lasts. She doesn’t take from you, she grows with you and adds to your purpose.
"Me Too" movement actually did wonders for men, now men don't chase women, they're focused on building themselves and doing things they enjoy
And this is what's pissing women now, that men just don't give a sh!t about them anymore
This isn't for Africans, there's a reason why we have the extended family, when your wife is due to deliver and after delivering, either she goes to her parents for a while or her parents send her younger sister or cousin to help
The man has to be out there in full strength hustling so he can provide for the mother and child
A man must focus on his duties NOT acting like a woman
As a man you don't need to overthink things, because either you have a solution or there's nothing that can be done about it. And as simple as that sounds, it's simple as it is truly.