At my toddler’s pediatric appointment, the doctor commented that my 3-year-old was “built strong” and said, “She’s going to be a curvy one.”
I felt my stomach drop.
I asked him not to talk about my child’s body like that and requested a different provider.
The pushback didn’t come from the clinic.
It came from people around me.
“He’s a doctor, not a creep.”
“You’re projecting.”
“They talk about bodies all day.”
“You don’t want to be labeled a difficult mom.”
No one asked why a medical professional felt comfortable commenting on a little girl’s future body shape instead of her health.
No one asked why I had to override my instincts to keep the peace.
The system closed ranks around him.
Credentials were used as a shield.
My discomfort was treated like the real problem.
Medical misogyny is when women are taught that safeguarding their children’s bodies is “overreacting,”
but a man’s authority is treated as inherently harmless.
It’s not that harm has to occur for it to matter.
It’s that women are expected to wait until it does, and then explain why we didn’t stop it sooner.
I want the kind of money that lets me show up for my people. Even if I can’t fix everything, i want to at least soften the moment. To send food. To send transport fare. To send ice-cream money on a hard day.
I’m tired of only saying “sorry.”
There is a young woman by the name of Noluthando Kossi, originally from Durban, South Africa, who is currently in Thailand 🇹🇭. She works at Beacon House Yamsaard in Rangsit, Pathum Thani. Previously, she worked at Princess Sirindhorn’s College in Nakhon Pathom, and later at a school in Lad Prao, Bangkok.
We are sharing this information because Noluthando is currently unwell. She has not reported to work since last Monday, and it has been reported that she has been wandering around the Lumpini Township area, Khlong 1. She appears to be dehydrated and has not eaten.
We are urgently requesting assistance in locating her close family members, such as her mother, brother, or sisters. If anyone has any information that may help, please share it with us. Noluthando is a very private and reserved person and does not often communicate with others.
We are concerned that she may be experiencing mental health challenges and needs immediate care and support.
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my anxiety has a loophole that if somebody else is equally or more uncomfortable i develop the sudden ability to DO THE THING. i can’t go and ask for more ketchup for myself but if my friend wants more ketchup i’m out of my seat in a second
I saw a man read a text, close his eyes, and breathe out.
Someone asked if everything was alright.
He said, “Yeah. She just feels safe with me.”
I’M DONE.