Thought_Contraband

My private thought vault.

[Pascal @KnowsPascal]

When you perceive that you are being humiliated, look on it as the sign of a sure guarantee that grace is on the way.

-St. Bernard

[Dr Jordan B Peterson @jordanbpeterson]

What if the thought that just crossed your mind arrived the same way a prayer is answered? In this lecture, Jordan Peterson opens with a claim that sounds impossible and spends the next ninety minutes making it undeniable: that thinking is a kind of secularized prayer, that every insight you have ever had arrived more like a revelation than like a calculation, and that the direction you aim decides not only what you think but what you are able to see at all. From an ordinary argument with your wife, which Peterson uses to reveal something disturbing about the spirit in which you speak, he moves through a prophet alone in a cave, a man swallowed by the sea for staying silent, and two brothers and a rejected offering, building toward a single answer to the oldest question a person can ask. What faith turns out to be has almost nothing to do with belief in the way you were taught, and everything to do with a decision you are already making, every hour, whether you have noticed it or not.

This lecture was filmed on May 16th, 2024 in Los Angeles, California.

[Will Knowland @beherleader]

Men underestimate how much marriage requires active, emotionally intelligent self-sacrificial leadership.

Women underestimate how much marriage requires respect, trust and relinquishing the attempt to manage their husband into becoming the man they want.

Both underestimate how relentlessly marriage demands virtue.

[Codie Sanchez @Codie_Sanchez]

A quote I fall back on in hard times:

“Anxiety is the greatest evil that can befall a soul except sin. God commands you to pray, but He forbids you to worry.” St. Francis de Sales

[Syrian Girl @Partisangirl]

Increased number of sexual partners increases likelihood of postpartum depression - Chinese study.

[Oliver @theoliverxp]

Self hypnosis for beginners:

[Peter McEwen @techgnostic]

I’ve been told this essay has helped people — a parachute easing the descent into embodied attention on difficult feelings. An editor reworked my unpolished prose, so perhaps it now reads with greater clarity and emotional legibility. May it benefit. 🧵👉🏼🔗

[Zoraya Black @ZorayaBlack_]

People will do you so wrong, and then expect time to heal you enough to have a neutral view towards them. And if you aren’t neutral, they take that as you being stuck on the situation, bitter, unable to move on or still emotionally consumed by what happened, when in reality, you can move on from a situation and still maintain the same opinion of somebody that their behaviour caused you to form.

[Pascal @KnowsPascal]

God only gives the grace of perseverance to those who seek it.

-St. Augustine

[🍂 @Lovandfear]

There is a Japanese practice of owning one very good version of something rather than several adequate ones.

One knife, kept sharp. One pen that writes exactly as you want. One bag chosen carefully and used for years.

This is not minimalism as aesthetic. This is minimalism as relationship.

You learn the object. You know its weight. You know how it responds to your hand.

The object becomes, over time, an extension of you.

That cannot happen with things you do not stay with long enough to know.

[Xans | Hypnotist + High Performance Hypnosis @xansnds]

His advice is very effective because you begin to rewire your brain by training yourself to think and act impulsively, which is near indistinguishable from someone who has an incredible high degree of self-trust and agency.

When you trust yourself and have agency, you allow yourself to do whatever you feel like doing

To the outside that looks impulsive, but your gut is far more intelligent than your conscious mind will ever be and can ever be

This is the ideal state of being just nonstop action with his little thinking as possible, except when big risks are on the line

You do this until you learn the skills to be able to generate massive amounts of cash flow in a short period of time, and then you start thinking long-term

The hardest part is learning the skills to generate cash flow, but once you have that and entirely new world opens up to you on how to invest your money.

[Justin Welsh @thejustinwelsh]

The easiest way to fall in love with your life is to do a lot of difficult, painful, meaningful stuff for a very long time.

[Dear Son. @DearS_o_n]

Never mock a man who is trying to reset, reform and rebuild his life.

[Peachy Keenan @KeenanPeachy]

Why are so many women sooo angry? They won. They got everything they wanted. Men have never been doing this badly, and women have never been doing this well. They make more, they have the majority of jobs, they are the majority of college graduates, (UCLA undergrad is 60% female), they make more money, have much lower rates of suicide, addiction, and alcoholism, and live longer. They won: they took over all men-only spaces, they took over the Boy Scouts, they ended men’s bathrooms, they can fly fighter planes and be in combat. Marriage is optional, divorce is no-fault, they win 99% of the custody battles, they can control fertility at will, and they can’t get drafted. We are all living in the female future they promised.

[Nanaba Scorpee @nanaba_scorpee]

She is not telling people how she treated you.

She is telling them how you reacted to how she treated you.

That’s a trick of a manipulator.

[Yesjulz @YesJulz]

When someone initiates a difficult conversation with you, that is an act of love.

[Adam Lane Smith | The Attachment Specialist @AdamLaneSmith]

Swallowing your needs to preserve peace creates resentment.

[쪼리 JJory @TBJorry]

불교에서는 이렇게 인생을 살아가라 했다.

1. 조용히 이겨라. 말이 많으면 약해 보인다.
2. 굳이 복수하지 마라. 썩은 과일은 알아서 떨어진다
3. 잘못된 지름길에는 반드시 늪이 있다.
4. 비교하지 마라. 너는 너다.
5. 진짜 강한 사람은 남이 아니라 자신을 이긴다.

[DAN KOE @thedankoe]

The fastest way to become articulate on a topic is to write until you're no longer confused.

[Daily Stoic @dailystoic]

How to overcome adversity (According to Marcus Aurelius)

1. Use it to do good for others
2. Be ruthlessly objective
3. View everything as an opportunity
4. Cultivate an inner citadel
5. Take it action by action
6. Prepare for the worst