I asked @dermalogica ‘s rep not to use the culturally insensitive term “Tribe” when they address accounts & clients via email. This is what their response was... is this how you address your clients & customers @DermalogicaAUS@DermalogicaCDN@DermalogicaUK ??!
74% of abducted children who are killed die within the first 3 hours. 44% within the first hour.
I have a 4-year-old. When I found that FBI stat, I stopped what I was doing and started teaching him four things that afternoon.
1. Phone number. Memorized, not stored in a device. A kid who can recite a parent’s number to any adult with a phone becomes findable in seconds.
2. Code word. Any adult who says “your mom sent me” gets tested. If they don’t know the word, he runs. A 4-year-old can learn this in one conversation.
3. Stop, stay, yell. This one overrides the freeze response. FBI data shows 80% of initial contact between an abductor and a victim happens within a quarter mile of the child’s home. The quiet, compliant kid is what predators count on. A kid trained to scream on reflex changes the math. Every decibel is a witness.
4. Find a mom with kids. A small child can’t judge whether a stranger is safe. But a woman already watching her own children in public is the closest thing to a guaranteed safe adult. She’s the person most likely to act in seconds.
460,000 children are reported missing in the U.S. every year. One every 69 seconds. Recovery rate is above 97%. What separates the 97% from the 3% is almost always what happened in the first few minutes.
In nearly 60% of abduction homicide cases, more than two hours passed between when someone realized the child was missing and when police were called. The reporting delay alone eats most of the survival window. Every one of these five skills attacks that gap.
Four rules a 4-year-old can memorize. Each one turns hours of panic into seconds of correct action.
This reminds me of the girl who said men who hold their eating utensils like a toddler had parents who did the absolute bare minimum of teaching their sons how to exist, and they thought getting the food in his mouth was enough and the etiquette didn’t matter at all lol. I always wondered why seeing a man eat like that gave me the ick, but it all makes sense.
Rihanna staying natural despite people constantly talking about her looks is one of the reasons why I love her. She doesn’t rush to “fix” anything. That kind of confidence makes y’all uncomfortable, which is why y’all project y’all insecurities onto her.
Pre construction is giving me anxiety. Blueprints. Clearing/prepping the land. Sewage/drainage/ditching. Driveway/parking. Foundation. Hydro hookups. Security. All Summer 2026.
Moving in with my mom on the rez to build my income property with my own cash money & bare hands will probably be the most humbling experience of my life.
Humans shouldn't always stay at home, even if you have nothing to do. Because staying at home for too long makes the brain become dull and leads to overthinking. You'll have more negative emotions. Psychology calls this state mental rumination. Most of the time, people who stay at home long term are not physically lazy - but mentally exhausted. You increasingly do not want to go out or see people. Even going to the supermarket downstairs to buy a bottle of water feels troublesome. You start to get used to being in a daze alone, scrolling through your phone and staying up late. Then you repeatedly struggle with yourself in an empty room. You think you're resting. But in fact, you're quietly draining the vitality of life. Your brain needs stimulation. Movement. Connection. Without it, your thoughts turn inward and spiral. The longer you isolate, the harder it becomes to break the pattern.
teach your daughters that being labeled “ride or die” is not a badge of honor when it costs them their peace. following a man through chaos, bad decisions, and repeated disrespect is not love, it’s conditioning. love does not ask you to tolerate emotional turmoil just to prove loyalty. if staying means shrinking, suffering, or constantly explaining away his behavior, that is not love
my therapist once said “accountability will always feel like an attack when you are not ready to acknowledge how your behavior harms others” and i just whew.