You will be minding your business, enjoying some nice muzika and here comes a BMW trying to kill you on the road for no damn reason. I hate how these okes drive so much and they get me so angry. What the fuck was that?? 😡🤬
People have learned a few psychological buzzwords on social media,like "gaslighting," "narcissist," "boundaries," and "toxic", and now they use them to run away from normal human conflict. Sometimes your partner isn't a "toxic narcissist violating your boundaries"; sometimes they are just annoyed, having a bad day, and you are actually the one who was wrong. We have weaponized therapy language to ensure we never have to apologize or compromise.
Everything women demand from a man costs money.
-Provision costs money.
-Protection costs money.
-Leadership costs money.
-Performance costs money.
Everything men ask from a woman costs nothing.
-Respect.
-Peace.
-Loyalty.
-Softness.
And somehow, what costs nothing is still called "too much" BY MODERN FEMINISTS. 🥺
There’s a time hubby and I were at the airport. We got into the picture and selfie moment. We took quite a number of them. All nice and laughing. Upon viewing them he told me to delete some coz he didn’t like how he looked in them. I insisted and said No. He insisted and I also insisted it’s my phone.
He asked me only one question: So u can’t listen to me if I say I don’t like them?
I knew there and then we’ve now crossed into the husband mode and outa friend mode no-more. I immediately handed over the phone and he deleted the ones he didn’t feel okay with.
That’s all she’s trying to say here.
The ability to discern who is talking at what moment and acting accordingly.
Hope this example throws more light..
I noticed something about environment. When you are surrounded by broke people, it starts to feel like everyone is struggling, like the economy is collapsing and no one has money, and even if you do, you start thinking you might lose it. When you are around entrepreneurs and people who are building things, it feels like money and opportunities are everywhere, even when you personally have less. Your environment shapes what you believe is possible.
Major cheat code for life: Learn to delay your reaction. Anger, fear, and impulse will try to make you move fast. There's power in pausing. In the pause, you see clearly, you respond wisely, and you avoid decisions you’ll regret. Slow down to speed up.
Just apologize when you know that you fckd up. All of that manipulative behavior and being mad at a person for being mad at you, when they have a legit reason to be, is just weird. People love to say they’re grown until it's time to hold themselves accountable.
The absolute darkest truth about how society views men is that we do not actually value male life; we only value what a man is willing to destroy himself to provide. Think about the male archetypes we actually celebrate. The soldier who doesn't come home. The father who works three grueling jobs until his heart gives out. The athlete who permanently destroys his brain and body for our entertainment. We only applaud masculinity when it is actively bleeding for the benefit of someone else. The exact moment a man decides he wants to step off the treadmill—to prioritize his own peace, his mental health, or his physical safety over his utility to the world—he is instantly branded as lazy, weak, or unambitious. We don’t want men to be whole, healthy, or at peace. We want them to be highly functioning shock absorbers. We demand they build the houses, fight the wars, and fund the lifestyles, and our only reward for this lifelong, crushing expectation is a quiet funeral when the stress finally kills them
The beauty of marriage lies in its capacity to transform individual ambition into shared purpose, where personal success becomes mutually constructed. - Prof. TB
The ultimate double standard in modern marriage is the unilateral cancellation of vows. A man is socially and legally expected to fulfill 100% of his traditional duties, to provide, protect, finance, and remain strictly faithful. But a woman can completely abandon the physical and intimate aspects of the marriage for years with zero societal pushback. If he complains, he is shamed as needy or predatory. If he files for divorce to escape a lifetime of forced celibacy, the courts will take his house, his kids, and his income. He is essentially trapped in a legally binding roommate contract where his utility is violently demanded, but his humanity is completely ignored.