There are some who take pride in being “hard to love” because, subconsciously, they believe their antics will distract from their inadequacies. If they keep you frustrated, confused, chasing, proving, and working for their affection, maybe you’ll be too busy trying to love them to notice how poorly they know how to love you. Being difficult becomes the defense mechanism.. so now the conversation is always about your reaction to their behavior instead of what their behavior is revealing about them. ALSO for the triggered individuals, she is not wrong in HER assessment of HER experience. Separate yourself and listen without taking offense, or don't. HER truth about what SHE has experienced isn't automatically an indictment of ALL. Rest.