Welcome to my little corner of the internet on X. 👋
I am a Catholic 46-year-old woman who chose to return to school in my 40s. I am a quintuple major studying Classics (with a focus in Latin), Catholic Studies, Civic and Economic Thought and Leadership, Counseling and Applied Psychological Sciences, and Art Therapy. My goal is to become a Catholic trauma therapist and clinical psychologist. I plan to apply to a dual master’s program in theology and counseling and eventually hope to obtain PhDs in moral theology and clinical psychology.
You’ll generally find me reading, writing, studying, or antiquing and thrifting, and I almost always have some sort of tea in my hand.
I am an artist, small business owner, writer (mainly poetry, lyrics, and short stories), singer, herbalist, devoted Catholic, and I share about all of the above.
Just a warning: I ignore DMs, immediately block perverts, weirdos, and bots, and I don’t waste my time arguing with people who get upset on the internet
All the weight you once carried gradually and imperceptibly faded, and yet you cannot name the day or place it did
You only know that it feels lighter than before, that you’re stronger and sturdier too, that God’s graces will always sustain you
God above me. Books beside me. Fire within me.
The two things that have carried me through every season are faith and learning. I went back to school in my 40s, and somehow I’m now completing seven bachelor’s degrees, three minors, and several certificates.
I don’t know how to explain it except this: God restores direction. Knowledge sharpens the mind. And some dreams refuse to stay buried.
I believe in staying armed in more than one way: armed with faith, armed with wisdom, armed with discernment, and prepared to protect the life God helped me rebuild.
I collect books, vintage treasures, sharp questions, and dreams that refuse to stay small.
Armed and well-read. Always. 🙏📖
If you are a woman who cares about growing in virtue, values modesty and chastity, and believes your body is holy and sacred, you will absolutely get pushback in today’s culture.
Clarifying your values can trigger both men and women because they may feel exposed, rejected, or indirectly confronted. You may simply be explaining your own convictions, but some people will hear your boundaries as a judgment on their desires, habits, or choices.
Your commitment to modesty may make people defensive because your boundaries quietly challenge what the culture has normalized. You are not attacking anyone. You are simply choosing to live according to your values. But people who feel convicted by that may try to make you seem dramatic, prudish, extreme, or judgmental.
But your stance is not extreme. It is coherent.
You are allowed to say, “I believe in modesty. I do not want to be sexualized online. I am not interested in being physically evaluated.”
Do not let someone else’s defensiveness make you question your convictions. A respectful person may not fully understand your theology or your exact reasoning at first, but they will not make you feel strange, extreme, or ashamed for choosing modesty and chastity.
Your values should not cause someone to act as though you accused them, rejected them, or launched some huge moral attack. That kind of overreaction often means your standards touched something in them. Maybe they feel embarrassed. Maybe they feel rejected. Maybe they are used to women responding differently and do not know what to do with someone who says, “No, I do not carry myself that way.”
Whatever the reason, remember this: you did not do anything wrong by standing by your convictions in a world that often pressures women to abandon them.
You do not need to be like everyone else simply because everyone else has decided that is normal.
Underrated life hacks:
- pray first thing every morning, last thing every night
- always keep an open notebook and pen within sight
- halve the amount time you allot yourself to read books & do your work
- extend your vision out by 5-10 years, then reverse engineer to present
- every time you catch yourself worrying, immediately surrender it to God
- never stop learning, ever, no matter what
- recognize no one is stopping you more than yourself
Today my best friend is meeting with someone about joining the Knights of Columbus, and I am so incredibly proud of him.
When we met three years ago, I had just returned to my faith, but I was still lost in so many ways. He had lost his way too. Somehow, by the grace of God, we began finding our way back together. We started going to church again, and over the last three years, our faith has deepened in ways I never could have imagined.
I truly do not know where I would be without Christos. I could not be doing what I am doing in school without him. I would not be on the path to becoming a Catholic therapist and theologian. I would not be completing various bachelor’s degrees, minors, and certificates. I would not own antique booths. I would not be relaunching my reselling and styling business. I would not be building our branding studio.
Meeting Christos changed everything.
He is, quite literally, my best friend in the entire world, and I do not know what I would do without him. Since the moment he met me, he has made it his goal to help me accomplish every dream God placed on my heart, and he has stood by that.
Of course, I know my dreams are coming true because of God’s grace and because of my own hard work. But I also know I could not have done it without the person God placed beside me.
I am a completely different woman than I was three years ago.
I am so thankful to God for bringing him into my life.