A former colleague told me how her cousin went out one night to buy Suya down the street and they didn't see him again. They searched everywhere, couldn't find him. Year 1 passed, year 2, year 3, I believe it was in year 4 they decided to declare him dead and "buried" him. Year 5
I’ve read stories of 5 years, 7 years. 10 years. No trial. No nothing. Just packed off the streets and placed in a prison for myriads of reasons that jack head or tail. What the HELL?
In college, I sat next to a girl who knitted through an entire 3-hour lecture.
Click. Click. Click.
Never once looked up at the professor.
Just yarn. Just needles. The whole time.
I judged her immediately.
"Why even show up if you're just going to do crafts?"
Yes! That’s my wife and daughter getting ready for the 6 a.m. Mass. I had just finished getting dressing and was sitting on the bed, waiting for them, when I captured the moment.
I have a couple of sketches of them getting ready in front of the mirror, but this particular one deserved to be painted.
Was telling a bunch of men the other night that one of the reasons we find intimacy with God difficult is not for any reason other than "What if he really speaks to me?" "What if the demands he makes of me are quite different from how I hoped my life would go".
A Holy God is scary, He puts it to us that our desires are at odds with him, and even though he is welcoming, this perfection side by side our weakness can ultimately turn us off.
There is a very specific female fatigue that comes from knowing exactly what is happening, explaining exactly what is happening, being told you are overreacting, and then watching exactly what is happening happen with excellent punctuality.
We have some of the most useless celebrities in the world.
* 99% of the women are focused on chasing beds of corrupt politicians!
*99% of the men have taken uselessness to another level!
The way many Nigerian public servants speak to the very people they’re meant to serve is still so military-regime coded. There’s this constant undertone of hostility, and “don’t question authority.” And honestly, you can trace a lot of it back to the family unit too. Many people are raised in environments where authority is rarely questioned, obedience is valued over dialogue, and respect is equated with fear. So that same dynamic just reproduces itself in schools, workplaces, institutions, and eventually governance.
The most toxic family trait is expecting the oldest daughter to be a third parent, a therapist, and an administrative assistant for the household, all while being criticized for having boundaries. You didn't give birth to your siblings you were just a child who was parented late.
Do you guys think about future kids when choosing the men in your lives? I’m not even talking about looks, but things like character, patience, values and whether he’d actually make a good father?
If you take time to look at it, you’ll see that Bola is central to all the moral, mental, psychological, political and physical decay happening to Yoruba people today.
@MasalaBai They're hosting podcasts about how they had to rebuild their lives after divorcing their abusive husbands and being litigated into the ground and losing their kids. Facts.