@BmoreBigBoy There is a kind of love that leaves you full, and a kind that leaves you paying for somebody else’s confusion. The older I get, the more I respect that part of me that would rather be alone than fed with something ill‑gotten.
If you have been the backup plan or treated someone that way, you know it shifts something in you.
How has it shaped your trust, your standards, or your patience in dating?
This way of living does not only hurt him. It nudges us toward the lie that only delusion feels like chemistry and that kindness always means there is a catch.