@RimzaMacMili To whom it may concern,
If you know that youβre dealing with triggers and insecurities, please depart from this bird app. Alternatively, ensure that youβre single and/or you have eyes on your significant other at all times. Otherwise, uzonya π€·ββοΈ.
Kind regards,
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I recently cut off a friend of more than 10 years. Watching him try to reach out to me and me ignoring his calls or messages makes me sad shame.
But fuseg β€οΈπ
@thomasmlambo Only one thing will salvage this WC campaign for us. A total player revolt. Foot d'etat if you will, coz madala has lost his mind πββοΈπππππ
Teboho Mokoena was gonna go direct then the coach, Hugo Broos said scrap that shit of yours and do it my way. Mbokazi and Teboho were confused to a point that they messed it up.
the juice is no longer worth the squeeze.
to put it more simply, the cost of chasing has gone up and the reward has gone down.
costs have increased and social media means that rejection is no longer private.
a boy who approaches a girl and fails can be posted, screenshotted, memed, and circulated to hundreds of people he has never met.
proportionately, alternatives have increased.
we've got porn is free and infinite now + video games offer progress, achievement, and community. social media offers the illusion of connection without the risk of vulnerability.
so why tf should a young man chase a girl to feel something when he can feel something in his room, alone or otherwise?
the reward has decreased too. marriage is riskier than ever for men β from divorce courts, false accusations, to the loss of his assets. we've heard, seen, maybe even lived through these experiences.
another way of looking at it is that boys stopped chasing because the game is rigged, and they finally realized it.
cus the old bargain was: you chase, you prove yourself, you provide, and in return, you get a woman who appreciates you, respects you, and stays with you.
the new bargain has become: you chase, you prove yourself, you provide, and in return, you get a woman who might leave you at any moment, might take your stuff, might turn your friends against you, and is definitely keeping her options open on her phone while still with you.
hence, the reality we see today. the older rules no longer apply, and even newer rules are being written.
why chase, when you can attract?