Titobioluwa Ayomidun

I am a fertile ground, nothing dies in my hands".everything I lay my hands/heart on will prosper.

[Titobioluwa Ayomidun @Touquiluv]

My sweet Fifi to the world.

[OurFaveOnlineDoc 🇬🇧 🇳🇬 @OurFavOnlineDoc]

How you live life when you have no debts, no exam, no job, no deadlines, no classes, no assignments and no bills to pay.

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

If you ever see yourself in this kind of situation, where love existed but money became a problem and a child entered the picture, pause first. When finances are tight, emotions get heavy and small issues grow fast.

If you ever see yourself in a situation where pregnancy happens before things are fully settled, understand that life is no longer about ego. Both of you must grow up fast and act with sense.

If you ever see yourself in a situation where you borrow from your partner and fail to pay back, know that trust is already cracking, even if love is still there.

If you ever see yourself in a situation where parents are dragged into your personal fights, stop. Once families enter, peace becomes harder and wounds get deeper.

If you ever see yourself in a situation where you are monitoring, controlling, or constantly suspecting your partner, understand this clearly: control kills love faster than most mistakes.

If you ever see yourself in a situation where health and hospital matters turn into power struggles, reset immediately. Life and safety must come before pride.

If you ever see yourself in a situation where you defend yourself more than you apologize, accept that you are part of the problem.

If you ever see yourself in a situation where anger leads your decisions instead of calm talk, you are pushing your family away.

If you ever see yourself in this situation, fix yourself first. That is how relationships are saved, and that is how children are protected.

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[Indah 💞 @Newaysisi]

beautiful flowers 🌺

[AWENI ONIBATA(your handmade footwear plug). @AweniOnibata]

Doctors in the house, why do women give birth in water these days??
Does water make it easier?
Any benefit to the mother and child?

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

A lot of people truly do not get why the man is the one who chases and why he is the one who asks for marriage.

When a man asks for a woman’s hand in marriage, he is saying something very serious.

He is telling her, leave your parents or comfort zone and come to me. I will take care of you. I will provide. I will protect you. I will give you a home.

Everything your parents were doing for you, I am now taking that responsibility. That is what marriage in the first place means to woman. Every other thing comes later.

This is why the man steps forward. This is why he asks. This is why he leads. It is not about ego. It is about responsibility.

But today, many people want to change the order. They want the benefits without the duty. They want to flip the roles and still call it marriage. That never ends well.

If you want to do things your own way, that is your choice. But the order still stands.

It’s well.

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[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

This is why I keep telling you young ladies.

If you know that you're an ambitious lady, look for a man that is more ambitious & align your goals.

Men find it difficult to accept the reality of you being more financially & educationally exposed than they are.

The laid back ones will attempt to either stifle your growth, or start to resent you for being better than they are.

That resentment would lead to heightened insecurity, & uncontrolled jealousy.

The first sign of the possibility of this, is being a 50/50 man.

A man that is unashamed of wanting to know what you'd be doing with your money, is a man that cannot stand what you'd be doing with your money, should he lose his shield.

He would relax and start feeling entitled to your money, & would want to take control of it.

Where you're not willing to "cooperate" with him, he starts to feel threatened, incomplete, & using his ego as a weapon against you.

All these things that I have been saying, may not make sense to many of you young men and women.

But my advice to you, is that you should never think of yourselves as exceptions.

Because that exception may not be you.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

It takes much more money for a woman to take care of herself to look beautiful & attractive, than it takes for a man.

If your wife is earning her own money, you should be happy.

Because even if you're spending your money to provide for her & the kids, she's covering up for you.

Whatever she spends on herself to keep looking beautiful, she'll always tell the world that you are responsible for it.

She doesn't even need to tell anyone.

People would naturally assume that it's you.

And it boosts your ego, and she'll be happy that you are not depending on her money to feed her.

Be a man, & learn these things.

No one truly cares if you have two pairs of shoes or 3 shirts & 3 trousers.

Just make sure that you take care of your hygiene properly.

So that the women you're cheating with, will not be sucking your smelly dick.

End.

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

Many women today think love will cover everything, but the real test of a man shows up when you both do not agree.

Before you say yes to him, you must watch how he handles those moments when feelings clash.

See how he handles conflict. You need to pay close attention to him on days when things are not smooth.

Does he raise his voice. Does he insult you. Does he walk away and leave you hanging. Or does he sit down with you and talk like an adult.

Watch the way he responds when you tell him something he does not like. A man who respects you will still talk with calm mind even when he is upset. A man who lacks control will use anger to shut you down.

Look at how he apologizes. Does he own his mistakes. Does he try to understand your side. Or does he twist the whole thing to make you feel guilty. That is a big sign of the kind of home you will live in.

See if he listens. A man who loves you will hear you even when you are not speaking loud. He will not treat every disagreement like a battle.

Marriage needs a man who can handle conflict with wisdom.

If he turns every small issue into war now, he will do worse later.

Accept a man who knows how to talk, how to calm down, and how to work with you, not against you.

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[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

Masculinity is not wickedness.

Stop mixing the two. Being a man does not mean you must be harsh, cold or violent. Strength is not the same thing as cruelty.

A masculine man leads with calm, with sense, with self-control. You do not earn respect by making someone afraid of you.

Femininity is not mumu.

A woman who loves, cares and submits in peace is not weak. She is not foolish. She is giving you trust.

She is giving you softness because she believes she is safe with you. When you misuse that softness, you are the one who has failed, not her.

We need to stop twisting these roles.

A man can be firm and still be kind. A woman can be gentle and still be wise.

Love works when both sides understand their power and use it to build, not to destroy.

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[The Biblical Man @Biblicalman]

I used to love my wife because she earned it.

When she was kind, I was kind.

When she respected me, I respected her.

When she didn't—I didn't.

Marriage was a transaction.

A balance sheet.

I gave what I got.

Nothing more.

Then one Sunday our pastor said something I couldn't shake.

"The way you treat your wife is the way you treat the Lord."

I thought he was being poetic.

He wasn't.

That night I looked at my wife.

Really looked.

She was exhausted.

The kids had been brutal.

The house was chaos.

And I was keeping score.

Waiting for her to earn my kindness.

That's when it hit me:

I wasn't loving a woman.

I was worshiping myself.

Every act of service I withheld was worship I stole from God.

Every cold shoulder was an altar to my ego.

Every "she started it" was a prayer to my own righteousness.

Marriage isn't a contract between two people.

It's an offering to the One who made them.

I started loving her differently.

Not because she deserved it.

Because He does.

I served her when she didn't thank me.

I pursued her when she pulled away.

I led when I didn't feel like leading.

Not for applause.

For an audience of One.

She noticed.

Not right away.

But one night she said:

"You're different. What happened?"

I told her the truth.

"I stopped loving you to get something back."

"I started loving you to give something up."

She didn't understand at first.

Now she does.

When you love your spouse as an act of worship

Everything shifts.

The scoreboard disappears.

The transaction ends.

And marriage becomes what it was always supposed to be.

A daily death to self.

A living sacrifice.

An act of worship disguised as a Wednesday night doing dishes.

Your spouse isn't your enemy.

They're your offering.

Treat them like one.

[Oluwatimileyin✨🦋 @Timmysofine]

It’s so important you marry a kind person, this is why!!

[Muna @Munalozy]

I honestly want to marry into a family that genuinely loves me. I want it to happen. I don't want a situation where I have issues with my in-laws. I want them to take me as their own. Marrying into a loving family is a top priority. 🙏

[liminal @Liminal1988]

When something is for you,...

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

I can't threaten my wife anyhow.

I can't bully her.

I can't intimidate or manipulate her with money.

But she doesn't have money.

And she's in charge of our home.

While I lead it.

She earned her place, fully.

None of my siblings can accuse her of being a gold digger.

End.

[Gladiators zone @Gladiatorszonee]

Sometimes you have to be honest with yourself

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

New month, new chance to love better.

Stop matching pride with pride. Talk things out. Be kind even when you don’t feel like it.

Real love doesn’t die; people just stop doing what kept it alive.

This month, choose peace, effort, and honesty, that’s how love lasts.

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[Universe Vibe @universevibe_]

November is a reminder.

[Titobioluwa Ayomidun @Touquiluv]

A blessing to my kids is what I am and what I will be to them.

[Real Deal @Realdealmate]

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