@OmolewaAbraham It’s NOT fair but it’s global norm. Muslims after 9/11; ethnic Germans after WWII; Japanese Americans in WWII, after the attack on Pearl Harbor, e.t.c.
You dated a woman for 1-3 years before marriage and throughout the dating, your modus operandi was the man covering all her expenses. The lady did not invest a dime in the relationship…
You have simply set the pattern for your marriage — and it would be almost impossible to change. If you go broke in marriage she will CHANGE – because of the dependency you established because of “love.”
Men should learn to allow their partners invest in the relationship early. Unlearn your “savior complex”
After giving birth, a woman's internal wounds take six months to heal, 12 months for physical recovery, two years for hormonal balance, and up to five years to rediscover her identity. Relationships frequently fail during this time due to a lack of understanding. Be kind and patient with new mothers; they are facing more challenges than it appears.
there’s two sides of every story but when it’s your turn, invest over $100k for a 4-5yr duration in a young teenage female artiste’s career and allow that artiste tell you they’re done with the contract after two years. Since you’re an NGO.
Pastor Adeboye emptied the infrastructures of their fellowships in the North East campuses into the IDPs in Borno, Yobe and Adamawa.
When we got to Borno in 2017, we met empty spaces. I wrote a letter to him from Maiduguri, I told him all we needed, running into millions of naira. He sent the money to us. Everything I wrote in the letter was sent. I would write to him every quarter giving him update about all of us in the fellowship and request additional money. He will still send it.😅
I coordinated one of his largest intervention program in Maiduguri. A training and certification course for students in Architecture, Urban planning etc… thousands of students from Ramat Polytechnic, University of Maiduguri etc… it was one of his programs to uplift a society battered by insurgencies and the economy of the state crashed. A program meant to give a future to them by upgrading their skillset.
His greatest strength of not showing off is the reason many people, even his church members do not know 2% of his works.
‘tall’ to ‘master’, is simply semantic extension or metaphorical elevation .
Originally, “Head” is body part; extended usage: “ ‘head’ of a company.” Nobody would think you mean literal “head.”
You haven’t shared any document that proves “Oga” as a single word in Igbo related to the meaning debated on this thread – particularly from the 19fh century.
The earliest documented standalone form “oga” is from Yoruba.
This is Rev Bowen T.J. book. And it supports my argument. A word from Yoruba /Igbo/Hausa/ French , can have multiple related translations in English.
Baba shows “master “ as well as “father” from the extract you shared.
ògá : boss / superior
gà : tall / high
ògó : glory.
Thus: “Ògá-ògó” can be “most high” “most glorious,“ etcetera.
Can you also share your source for OGA(boss/high one) as a standalone Igbo word meaning “boss/high one” or anything close ?
I doubt there is any 18th century document of such. If there is, it would only mean that both languages have the same word for the same/similar description. And this is not uncommon.
@nzemmili@_noexcusez@PraiseA54700 “ Ìjòyè “ is titled person.
Ì (state/status) + jò (to join/enter into) + oyè (title or chieftaincy).
“ Bàbá “ is father in Yoruba. It’s also a Hausa word.
@nzemmili@_noexcusez@PraiseA54700 “gá” in Yoruba means “elevated” or “ tall.”
“Ọ̀gá “ means "master," " boss," . And this is clearly the usage in Nigerian Pidgin.
Yoruba commonly forms nouns from verbal roots, so ọ̀-gá can be understood as "the elevated one “or " the one who stands above others.