Normalize creating distance when you know someone has been speaking negatively about you family, in-laws, cousins, friends… anyone. It doesn’t matter. You don’t have to keep showing up with a smile just to “keep the peace” while someone is comfortable disrespecting you behind closed doors. Boundaries aren’t rude, they’re necessary.
If someone chose to speak on you, let them stand on it. You’re not obligated to be extra cordial to people who haven’t been genuine with you.
People move strategically while you move with pure intentions.