dating someone who's never been loved properly takes so much patience, understanding, and emotional strength. you're often teaching them how to receive care while learning not to lose yourself in the process
Modern women obsession with "soft life" and "princess treatment" has made a whole generation of women completely blind to the brutal reality of what it actually takes for a man to provide that.
You are demanding a man be endlessly romantic, available 24/7, and constantly planning aesthetic dates, while he is literally in the trenches fighting a ruthless economy to build the very empire you want to rest in.
You cannot demand the spoils of war and then complain that the soldier is too tired to entertain you when he finally gets home. We want the absolute financial security of a conqueror, but we expect him to have the carefree personality and infinite free time of a golden retriever. A man cannot simultaneously be at peace and at war. If he is building your fortress, you have to give him the grace to be exhausted
unpopular opinion: a lot of men don’t actually want sex... they want intimacy, but nobody taught them how to ask for it without it sounding weak. so it comes out as horniness. it’s easier to say ‘i want you’ than ‘i want to be seen, chosen, and safe with someone.’ that’s not shallow. that’s emotional illiteracy we pretend is desire
A man struggles to fully love a woman who refuses to respect or submit to him. Not because he wants power or control, but because love dies when there’s no trust in his leadership. Constant resistance turns effort into exhaustion, and care into quiet withdrawal.