sam.

Power, seduction, political games and winning where others fail. A writer inspired by failures in life and victories.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

This come from Chase Hughes, not me. How to know with concrete certainty that somebody is actively manipulating you:

F.O.G. stands for Fear. Obligation. Guilt.

Manipulators are easy to spot once you genuinely catch somebody trying to make you feel one of these, and nothing rational or any argument makes it go away. Be careful because they could be trying to make you feel one of these emotions to undermine you and take power.

I have personally been attacked with all three, and it takes skill to see it happening in real time.

Their denial of the facts is intensely obvious and futile once you intercept these attempts.

The primary emotions people use to manipulate you, right there, clean and in a readable format so you can intercept them.

I would recommend intercepting them with for example, "I feel obligated to respond to you and I think that is very interesting."

Or you could say, "I feel like you want me to feel guilty about something, and I am not going to budge about this right now. Lets talk about this somewhere else"

Or you could say, "I feel like you want me to be afraid right now."

That is the original interception. They will deny this and will continue to add more manipulation and reframing to control the narrative, but it will be completely over for them once they try to do that because now they are forcibly retracing their steps and reassessing you, you have won a great victory by just stopping the act itself. They will definitely move targets to somebody else once you say something like this.

Don't expect people to change, but expect they will definitely switch targets and soften their stance to something like compliant behavior after the fact.

I had somebody try to obligate me with gifts recently, so by pretending to be a generous person they were creating a situation where I was emotionally indebted to them and involved in communicating to them, so they were gaining access by gifting me with food. I realized they were insisting on a feeling of obligation because I declined the food and it wasn't okay, it had to consistently be followed up with consistent dialogue about how I was refusing kindness, about how somebody had prepared that food just for me, about how I was rejecting love and kindness and wasnt taking care of myself.

This is guilt and obligation clearly in plain sight. I told her that I was feeling obligated to take the burrito and that was the end of the sentence. They attempted to justify their position, but they knew they had been completely and absolutely called out mid manipulation and probably felt stupid for exposing themselves to being intercepted like that.

Fear is another obvious one, its when people want to make you feel afraid. People who control information want to intimidate you. People who refuse to answer questions are trying to intimidate you. People who want to appear larger in their presence and in their psychological capacity are only after fear manipulation.

You can say "I feel like you want me to be afraid of you or that you are trying to be mysterious or something like that, and that is very odd and strange for you to do that"

Just keep thinking of examples like this, you will get the hang of it.

Somebody will try to do this to you and they are always weak people doing these things.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

Meaning determines outcomes. Control the meaning, shape the story, the fish flow down the river to the conclusion.

Meaning is the most fought after thing in all of history. Meaning determines who is in charge, who determines the rules, who sets the culture, who leads the crowd.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

If you have ever noticed anything unusual about people, it's because they are usually concealing something. They are trying to hide emotions in a lot of cases, but it could also mean they are trying to gain something at your expense.

People can in many cases spend decades manipulating others because it is functionally easier than dealing with whatever emotions arise from deep within.

The deep inner emotions are often totally existing in the subconscious mind of the person you are dealing with who is displaying manipulative characteristics.

Just so you know, these are the people trying to make you feel like you can never be good enough. These people are trying to make you feel like you can't trust your own perception. These people want your votes. They want your money. They may just want to watch you dance for them in eternal confusion. They may want to rape you or steal from you also.

They may want attention because they didn't get enough of it as a child. They may want to kill you or torture you. They may want to kidnap you.

Total access to your life is usually what they want. You have to be able to look at it from an objective point of view. They give you this uncanny feeling because they are doing behaviors that you can clearly identify and know about.

Watch for people who add information and always have to correct everybody else. Watch for people who try to make you feel obligated to them, guilty or afraid. They may say things like "You are a good person, right? So why are you mad at me?"

That is guilt, and obligation to do whatever they want. Also that is fear of the consequences, also, stay far away from them.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

In my life I struggled deeply with negative self talk because of the verbal abuse I experienced as a child, all the way growing up to adulthood.

It sounds horrible to say that out loud because sometimes reality is a very horrible experience for some people.

Just think about it: There are many people who believe things like this "Might is right, if I could take it from you, you deserved to have it taken from you"

I could give you lots of examples of people who believe things like this, but people are transitory creatures who dislike being defined.

Manipulators will often try to put pressure on you by defining you too often or too many times so that you have a limited amount of ways you can actually respond to the situation.

There are many people who wouldn't want you reading these words. They are marketing professionals, business people, entrepreneurs selling you products, your own boss wouldn't want you reading this.

So just think about that if you trust that anything I have said here so far makes any sense at all, or else just stop reading.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

The worst thing you could do to a manipulator is completely move on without them.

That is the exact opposite of what they want and often the reality they have created for themselves. Grief is a necessary aspect of managing manipulators.

You must always be able to control the grieving process by processing the reality of the fact that manipulative people do exist in the world. This is a bitter horrible thing.

You must process this grief.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

Here's what I know about manipulators:

They use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt.

They like to check on their handiwork. They like to make you emotional. They like to hijack authority by making you do things for them without doing things for you.

They benefit from you seeing them as 'magical'.

They benefit from false sources of authority (they have deep insecurity and anxiety that they don't want you to see)

They are deeply insecure individuals with unstable emotions. They check in with other people constantly. They are not always malicious. They can come across as very innocent due to their sense of victimization.

They unconsciously manipulate but they know how to get their way.

They are afraid of people who won't react to them.

They love to flip the script and accuse you of what they are guilty of.

They often have a strong feeling of disgust towards people or anger beneath the surface.

They are focused on control. They need to get a reaction of some kind out of you so they can reframe your reactions. All you need to do is say "I have no idea what you are talking about" until the problem goes away or they look sufficiently insane for generating this much attention and drama out of nothing.

They will often read too much into people and try to read into your behavior when you are actually just trying to mind your own business and want nothing to do with them.

They will often create a disparity between the amount of information they reveal about themselves and the amount of information they expect from other people.

They use proximity as a form of power and manipulation, feeling like if they can lower your boundaries then they have 'won' some kind of moral victory that relieves them of guilt and negative feelings.

They make everything into a dramatic display to cause some kind of hesitation or gap that they use to read reactions and classify information through their senses. This is part of why they often utilize proximity, it is so they can use their full body to take in information.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

When lords of war manipulate, they give their opponents a golden bridge to retreat across.

You must hesitate in order to see their preference. Discipline is a weapon of warfare for this very exact purpose.

Hesitation, but deliberate hesitation is vengefully powerful against the most merciless imaginable opponents.

I have used this against mentally powerful people who bully others for a living. I have used this against corporate executives, bosses, supervisors, security guards, professional fighters, and bullies from all walks of life.

This is pure self defense. It is non emotional resilience, foreseeing preference is the determining factor to gaining intelligence about future behaviors.

So again, shock their pattern recognition and familiarity as abruptly as you can and immediately watch for how they respond. Actually dangerous potential enemies working to manipulate you in real time will continue adding information.

Sincere people will blunder and react or just give you completely authentic confident eye contact revealing trustworthy behaviors.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

@MDE_Unmapped because going anywhere with the express purpose of being an asshole is always a problem forever. there, solved your problems

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never underestimate the extent to which most human behaviors are an attempt to see how much they can get away with

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The ai fear is a very particular agenda being propagated by a very manipulative group of people. Wonder who that could be

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

one visit to Facebook and your entire worldview has been sculpted, suggested, molded, pushed, coerced, manipulated, enforced, reinforced, entrusted, sabotaged, insulted, pulled, skipped over, flipped over, scrambled, put back together different, chewed on, traumatized, skewed, joked on, forgotten, thrown out the window, slapped silly, shot out the cannon, and that's the truth.

It's not just social engineering. It's the creation of alternate identities through psychotic engineering.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

The most foundational skill of influence is the skill of frame control and evolving your understanding of what makes a human being evolve over time.

Evolution comes from grip on reality. You have a good grip, you win points and evolve. The more of a grip you get, the more points you get. The issue is that most people come from a point of view where you have to take points from other people in a competition instead of simply applying yourself to something.

The shame of social disapproval is a prison millions upon millions, perhaps even billions of human beings use to limit their actual expended energy into a given craft.

They fear being passionate and how it would make them sound. They fear total rejection because of something they cannot help or control about themselves.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

You should think about the choices you make in life as contributing towards fitting you into the kind of culture that would love to include you.

Trying to 'keep up with the joneses' is the best possible way to erase your power and influence. Instead, learn how to set clear boundaries and enforce them all day.

The main thing about boundaries is that they need to be totally about your bottom line. For me, nobody gets to demand my attention or invade my personal space or speed me up at will. I control all access, it's that simple. You get cut off immediately when you try to force me to pay attention to you or come too close.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

How do you make decisions?

Most of the time you actually consult somebody who is trustworthy or that you have experience with. This is the power of reputation:

Reputation allows you to use your work ethic to gain future rewards. This is why you need to be putting work into relationships. Your reputation is actually just work in relationships.

You already have relationships.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

If you make something easy to agree to, you will get your way. This is the true reason why confidence is a desirable trait to have, because confidence makes it easy for people to follow you.

If you reduce risk, you make it easier to follow you. If you promote benefits, you make it easier to follow you. Where most people fail is the middle ground where decision making feels impossible.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

What you don't know about power is that the people with the most influence are basing their decisions on decision making fatigue only. If your appearance demands too much attention or requires people to figure you out, you will pull unwanted consequences onto yourself and call yourself unlucky.

'Unlucky' is a stupid joke. You are 'unlucky' because you demand attention from people unnecessarily. You wear clothes that you think are funny, you go against social norms and expectations because you have an opinion, you talk loudly and confidently wherever you go because somebody told you that loudness is a good confident thing to do, you got fat and gross looking because your therapist told you that authenticity is the name of the fucking game, you had no idea that you were pushing opportunities away from you by being a self-obsessed ass fuck.

Reduce decision making fatigue wherever you go, and you will be observed by the most intelligent and desirable people in that group immediately in a positive way. Like a fucking oasis in a desert, like a drug dealer the whole town knows. Does this make sense? Try it.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

The moment you dedicate your attention to something, that thing becomes an actual event which branches into multiple causes and effects.

Cause is something which is either dead or alive.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

Seduction is something that takes work. It is more forgivable to not have tailored interactions when moving publicly in a crowded supermarket, but all that mercy disappears once you come face to face with the target of your interest.

If you aren't prepared to work harder than the average person, you will fail at becoming influential.

[sam. @Truth_Evo]

The best thing you could ever do in your life is build one play on top of the other. If you think it is sufficient to be satisfied with a past victory, you are blinded.

The only thing worth doing in this world is building a story worth telling, and letting other people tell it.